I really want to be stright. I dont want to be gay but i think i am. I like looking at men naked and women 2. I want to be with women so much more but i like guyes to. I dont want to be bi either. I really dont want to be gay. I kinda talk like im gay and i dont mean 2. some of my friends think i am.... but i say NO. HELP??!!! I really want to not be gay at all. What should i do?
2007-07-07 16:08:41 · 42 answers · asked by (B)R)E)N C))))) 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
get some professional help
2007-07-07 16:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by sexyjasmine 1 · 0⤊ 6⤋
I can't tell you if your gay, bi, or heterosexual. Why? Because, I am not you. I cannot tell you what you want to be. Why? Because, its probaly the most confusing time in your life. Will you ever pick the right one that fits you? Maybe. Alot of times tho, people pick the one that the people in their own environment expect them to be. Then, you have one lost sheep. I suggest, taking some time out for yourself. Finding you. This may mean some soul searching on your part. In the end, you need to pick a sexuality that you feel most comfortable with, and stick with it. Your line "I really want to be straight". Does that come environmental pressure? Every one expecting you to be just that? I suggest you seek counseling. Not a church counceling. An unbiased therapist . Does not mean theres anything wrong with you. A therapist, could help you lay all the cards on the table and help you see them more clearly.
2007-07-07 16:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey, don't worry about it. For many people sexuality can change over time. NOBODY is born gay, and very few people are born exclusively (100%) gay.
You don't have to make decisions like that about your sexuality yet, the best thing to do is to ignore labels and carry on living your life. Concentrate on other things and Im sure youll come to a point that your happy with. When you see a guy you think is "hot" just see them as another ordinary guy, like you are, im sure theyll become less attractive sexually.
2007-07-10 02:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are caught in a quagmire. You have to find out who you are before you can deal with who you want to be with. And it sounds as if you don't know yourself very well. I'm hearing a lot of pain coming from this little bit you have written. I really feel for you. But the one thing you have to know is, you are who you were born to be, what ever way it turns out, it is not really a choice, it is in your genes and in your heredity. If you try to change yourself it's like trying to take a foot that is a size 13 and squeeze it into a shoe that is a size 7, it is just something that can't be done.
What you really need to do is to seek some help. It's time for you to see a shrink. Go and talk to someone who has professional background and knows what to say to you and how to help you. Let this person work with you to find out first who you really are. Once you get a good footing on who you are you can move on to try and figure out who it is that you really want to date. Do the ground work first, work on that and the rest will fall into place.
2007-07-07 16:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by lochmessy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look, my friend has the same, exact situation...you can't change who you are, if you're religious, pray to whomever u pray to and hope that this is just a phase. You could go to those crack-pot counselors that "cure gayness" but really, even if you are "cured" you'll secretly still like men, it's what it is and it'll be unhealthy to you and unfair to both you and your future partners if you stay in the closet all your life. I'm sorry you don't want to be who you've come to be and i'm sorry that society/your parents/your friends/your religion or whatever it is has made you come to hate yourself. I hope you find happieness. And also, you know you're some sort of gay, considering you're concemplating it so hard, it means you are, i'm sorry. And, i'm str8 but i think the male body in it's fullest peek (toned/buff) is like art, a sculpture, but it doesn't mean i'm gay, ya know?
2007-07-07 18:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by Enigmatic 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try not to dwell on it. Everyone has feelings both ways--its normal. Wait on it especially if you're young and see which is the strongest. A lot of people are bisexual and enjoy both hetero and homo relationships.
If you don't want to be gay concentrate on the female relationships in your life. Be careful not to be exploited. A good psychologist can be of immense help and a source of wisdom for you.
The best to you!
2007-07-07 16:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by Topsail 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look at it this way. You're Bi. If you get a girlfriend then u dont have to worry about the guys :) Most Bisexual usually prefere one of the sexes anyways . But be proud of who you are. What people say is just pointless they cant change you. Be Proud and remember that your not alone :)
2007-07-07 16:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're obviously emotional, and you want a replay of your best moments.
You could also drink beer just because it felt good last time. Or you could go at the bar, or call a specific friend.
But... anyone who has sex with himself or herself (manual stimulation etc) from the start is somewhat gay. In fact you're attracted towards yourself hence your own sex!!!
2007-07-08 06:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Roy Nicolas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I believe you are what you are and theres not much you can do to change that. Ofcourse you are going to get responses such as "dont look at men" or "ignore it and it will go away"
I dont think so. Thats you're preference. There are women I think are absolutley gorgeous, but to be with them sexually, probably not. I like men. But, if I wanted to be with a woman, I would. We are who we are and thats ok.
2007-07-07 16:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by s.p 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
you have to think about it, if you don't want to be gay you have to be proactive about it. stop looking at pictures of men it makes the men wonder, when you think about men, possibly get a rubber band on your wrist and pull and let go whenever you think about them. there is also places you can go to try to turn you around, if that is what you feel is what you want. I AM NOT AGAINST GAY PEOPLE, IT IS YOUR CHOICE OF A LIFESTYLE I AM JUST GIVING YOU ADVICE. and listen to how your friends talk and possibly practice talking to a video tape and this way you can hear yourself.
2007-07-07 16:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It depends on how old you are. I mean sometimes you react differently at a certain age. When your a teen all kind of people seem to attract you. When it comes down to it you need to know who makes you feel comfortable and if you have been in love. Its not just physical attraction.
2007-07-07 16:16:01 · answer #11 · answered by Mariposa13 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋