Just wondering.
2007-07-07 16:07:12 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am nto cheating by the way, but the reason I was asking is because my dad cheated on my mother.
2007-07-07 16:15:33 · update #1
Anything is possible, maybe the cheater was going through a rough time in their relationship or it was just one of those weak moment in life. Of course that doesn't mean cheating is right but I believe cause and effect.
2007-07-07 16:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by single_n_hopeful 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Of course it's possible. It just means that person loves themself more than they love their spouse. That's all cheating is. It's just like any other selfish thing that a spouse does in a relationship.
Adultery (in act or thought) is a very difficult thing for sure. It hurts everyone involved, including the children. Some marriages survive and others don't.
I hope this hasn't been too hard for you to go through. I personally know a woman who has remained faithful to her husband though he has cheated on her several times. He always comes back sorry but then leaves for drugs and women. I highly esteem this woman though. Most would think of her as weak and pathetic but I think she's the opposite. I think it takes more to forgive and try again then to end the marriage... granted I know I would have dropped him years ago. She's a good Christian woman doing what she thinks is best.
2007-07-07 18:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that it's possible to love someone and still cheat. Actually it depends. I mean that it's impossible if you love someone and then you cheat on them because you wouldn't cheat on them if you love them. When you cheat on someone you don't care about them and if you love someone then you obviously care about them. Of course it's a whole different story if you have a boyfriend, you cheat on him, and then you fall in love with the new guy. Then it is possible but I think that it's better to first dump the boyfriend. Anyway, you should never cheat on someone, no matter what. It's just wrong.
2007-07-07 16:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Cooℓ Smιℓεys :D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's a big difference. Yes you can BUT there is a physical need that makes people who aren't getting sex to want to find it else where. I see this happening with older people more than the younger. The younger people are just over sexed but the older ones are used to getting sex and when it's cut off, they tend to look for it else where (if they aren't strong). Giving in to sexual desires is one of the most common causes of divorce. I hate to say it but in most cases, it's the women who are the cause of this. Note I said MOST cases.
2007-07-08 05:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because if you love someone you would not want to do anything to harm that relationship or hurt that person. When you cheat you destroy a relationship and hurt another person so, nope you can't do both. Either you love someone or you want to cheat take your pick.
2007-07-07 17:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you love someone enough, I dont think you will give in to the temptation to cheat. Its always there, but its a battle of wills and loyalty at the end.
If you cheat, you gave in to temptation and were a little less loyal than you could have been... but a good man only comes once in a lifetime, and he will only forgive you so many times.
this goes for guys too... dont betray their trust. and by they, I mean your lover, which is meaning someone you love, not just ****.
2007-07-07 16:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by Miniru k 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was married 25 years. My husband left me for another woman. I now believe that he never loved me. Nobody who loves could cause me this pain. It's worse than death. Why did he marry and stay with me all those years? I have no idea. So, no. Cheating is the ultimate disrespect and betrayal. Nobody who loves does this.
2007-07-07 17:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by wc2ketey 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes.....but you really should not cheat should have got this out of your system before being in the relationship.
2007-07-07 16:10:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup. Even if you're in love with someone, if you have the personality that has an allergy to monogamy, then you could still cheat. Just because W is in love with X doesn't mean that W will never want to screw someone else.
2007-07-07 16:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I was just wondering at one time to. But i really did it and it is not possible because it is not fair to the MAN or woman you are with to come home and tell them you love them every night and and still go to the other MAN or woman for what ever you need from them Don't do it, it is not worth it
2007-07-07 16:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋