2007-07-07 15:57:11 · 22 answers · asked by savagegrace 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Absolutely not. Marriage should not be taken lightly. If they got pregnant on accident, surely a marriage won't make it better. The couple could get them selves into something they don't want. All parents are not married, and still take care and love their kids just the same.
2007-07-08 07:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer - NO!
Unless you are both very religious (in which case ud not have sex, let alone get pregnant before getting married) then I dont see why being married is so important.
Gone are the days when a child would be picked on for being a "bastard" so if thats something ur worried about I think its silly.
If a father isnt going to be there for his child, he will leave with or without a marriage certificate and same goes for a mother - marriage means very little, its the commitment the two people have to each other, not the piece of paper 'binding' them.
2007-07-08 00:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by karma_au_1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shotgun weddings ended a long time ago. However check this out.
I used to know a women who was in her late 40's. She got pregnant at 19 and her and the babys dad got married. Her and her hsuband had another daughter and eventually they stayed together for nearly 30 years.
For the entire 30 years she was miserable. There really was no love in her for her husband. She met someone on the internet fell in love with him. She divorced her hsuband and married this new guy.
Probably the best thing she ever did for herself. See the marriage to the first man was emotionally and verbally abusive. She claims to be happy now. I hope she is.
2007-07-08 17:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, especially if your not in love with your partner. I was only 17 when I got pregnant with my first born. I wanted a baby, but I didn't want to get married because I was pregnant.. I had my son, and the only sad part about this situation is he has never met or remember meeting his father. They have not known each other and now my son is 26. He talked to him once when he was only 11. and his dad promised to come see him, but he never did. My son holds alot of anger because of him and the broken promise. So you really should think about the child and what could happen when you don't marry. I still am glad I didn't get married, but I do wish that his father would of atleast acknowledged his son. maybe one day. but I doubt it.
2007-07-07 23:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. And from what I've seen couples that get married because they get pregnant end up being miserable and end up getting divorced. Just remember that a child binds you to the other parent for the rest of the child's life. Choose carefully.
2007-07-07 23:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by PK211 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! People do not need to marry because they share a mutual love of a child. It should depend on how dedicated they are to one another.
However, I am of the mind set that children are better off in a stable home of two parents. But if the parents dont truly love one another or are bad influences then that should always trump the need for two parents.
2007-07-07 23:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by collegechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. children need a happy home life. if a couple isn't ready to get married a child will not make them ready any sooner. having a child can be draining even on a strong relationships. i would wait and see how things go and if you still feel like getting married is right then go for it. otherwise just keep things happy and civil for your child.
2007-07-07 23:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by just wondering 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! If that is the only reason. The only reason you should get married is because you love that person and want to spend the rest of your life together.
2007-07-07 23:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Never get married just because you're pregnant. Get married because you love one another.
Down the road when you're bickering, you'll remember that you only got married because of the pregnancy, and it will bother you more.
2007-07-07 23:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by Umma K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
personally i think a couple should get married BEFORE they get pregnant.
i do not think a couple should marry based soley on pregnancy, why turn one bad choice into two.
however if they love each other and want to raise the baby together yes they should get married.
2007-07-07 23:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Havanah_A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋