Why do I feel depressed?

Question

I feel so hopeless and feel like I can't get ahead in life.I lie in bed face down everynight just bawling for no reason.I'm trying to get a better job and I can't seem to succeed,I feel like everyone hates me....the list goes on and on.

Answer 1

First - get a physical to make sure there is nothing going on physically to cause the depression - wishing you weren't depressed isn't going to help. Then if there is nothing physically wrong, get some counseling - they will help you to understand that you have the power to take control of your life.

I found that the more I focused on myself, the less I could focus on what I should be doing with my life. Self-centeredness is a known cause of depression. A person can become so inwardly focused that they can only see the world in relationship to themselves. In other words, they become the center of the universe and what happens to others as a result of their depression either doesn't matter or is seen as just another reason that "people don't like me".

Medication can sometimes help you find a way to re-focus by balancing your brain chemicals while you work on your issues. This doesn't mean that you will need to be medicated for the rest of your life - but if you do, so what? If it helps you lead a happy life, it's worth it.

Liking yourself is a precious gift, and you deserve it. What is success? Having a better job is not the answer - you'll just be depressed with more money. Liking who you are is the answer - there are lots of rich people who hate themselves AND just as many poor people who love their lives and who they are.

If you can't afford to get some counseling, here are some (very cheap) ways to help yourself by helping others:
Volunteer (focus on someone besides you) - maybe at an animal shelter - animals like anyone who's nice to them. Shop for someone who can't shop for themselves.
Volunteer at a soup kitchen (those folks don't have a bed to cry into).
Help someone fix up their home/apartment.
Helping somebody else will ultimately help you.

Do anything, do something - get lots of exercise. When you feel like crying, don't indulge, go for a walk. Don't feel safe - take a "walking stick" - great for self defense. Too scared to go out - turn on an exercise channel and exercise.

Keep a diary of what you have done each day to make it better. This part is pretty important - with the diary, some of your anxiety will flow onto the pages and you will also begin to see what makes you depressed (I used to call those things crazy-making).

God bless as you find yourself again - along the way, you may also find that God really does want the very best for you in very practical ways.

Answer 2

First of all, I think the feeling of hopelessness and not being able to move forward in life is bound to happen to everyone at one point. This is probably your time in life. But believe me it will pass, like all problems do. My advice would be to be to take a break from everything, and think about everything realistically. After all, life is too short to be dwelling on problems and letting it control everything aspect of it. I know you might feel as if taking a break is what is needed at this moment, but sometimes get caught with problems that really need some time to loosen up and re-evaluate their lives. Try to be content with job ( I know that may be tough..but be thankful that you have one) and hold on to it, while still searching for a new one and DON'T give up. As for everyone detesting you, who cares about what everyone thinks about you. It's your life and you are in charge of it. desire. You just have to dig deep within yourself and realize that this is hopefully just a test in life. I think a good chunk of depression results from being encircled my all these problems and adversities that slowly drain happiness from your life to an extent where you feel it never be regained again. It's tough but humans are capable of coping with every problem, no matter how big or small. Sometimes, it's take a little time to accept that and learn to not let problems govern your life.

I should mention that seeing therapist may also be a good idea. In times like these, it's best to talk to someone, and believe me therapists could be a HUGE help.

Answer 3

Why do you feel depressed? Unsolved conflicts in your life, low self-esteem, pity for yourself and the life your living, wanting to be/ or having what somebody else has.

Those are all reasons you could be depressed, an unsatisfaction in your life. If you know your depressed, see a doctor. It's not cowardly or stupid, it's the right thing to do. You don't need to continue to live this way, you can change your life.

PAUSE

Yes, i said you can change your life, but that's just it. Only you can do that. Get up, stand up, go out, and taste some of that fresh air. You need to get your living moving. Life is made to live NOW so get going.

Hope that helps =]

Answer 4

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Answer 5

i hear ya man im goin nuts not workin and depression makes it worse, im tryin to stay positive and find ways i can change me instead of others. cutting ties helps sometimes and sometimes its worse. i am goin to an anger class soon to help me with things and even tho i try hard to do wat i need to do i never seem happy, u need to make some new friends online or in person, or maybe u need to see a doctor sometimes dealin with it alone u suffer longer.

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Answer 6

don't worry. you can and WILL get a better job. you have to show a face that is confident and secure to potential employers. the 'i'll never get this job' look or posture will make people think they shouldnt hire you so put on your best game face and go for it....make it happen....

Answer 7

first thing you can do is know to make things better you need to take it one step at a time,
if you need to take some (more)college night classes that will make your resume look better, do it.
and if everyone hates you... (who is everyone... friends/family or co workers?) if family and friends, thats just annoying ( i have an unsupportive family so i wuld understand) if co workers , skrew em... no need to care what they think....
my sister has problems with co workers and she just had to learn to forget it, some people suck when they hat their own lives,
just know its not the end,
there is hope, there always is, even if its tough stuff you always have a chance...
^.~
Good luck

Answer 8

A change in attitude will quickly disarm the emotional reaction you are having to the depressive thoughts.

Answer 9

you need to change your attitude.
energize yourself
get a new friend and new job.
just change the mundane in your life.
you are to young to be this way.
life it so special and time to appreciate it.