I am in the process of going through a divorce. I have met a very special woman that I have developed very strong feelings for. I have told her how I feel. Her answer to me was "time and patience - if it is meant to be it will be". What is your take on that? Are any of the same feelings there?
2007-07-07 15:24:55 · 27 answers · asked by mikemja316 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had also emphasized to her that I did not expect there to be anything between us until my divorce was final. I just wanted to tell her how I felt about her.
2007-07-07 17:46:54 · update #1
After seeing many of the answers I have been receiving I am getting the impression thateveryone thinks I am at fault for the divorce - Not True! - few stats for you:
married 21 years- never cheated or thought about it.
2007-07-08 08:06:13 · update #2
Maybe she is just not ready for a serious relationship right now.
2007-07-15 13:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is a bit worried that she is going to be a "rebound" girl. Even though you may not realize it, divorce is very hard on a person. In 6 months, a year, 2 years down the road you will not be the same person you are today. The changes will be subtle but they will occur. Listen to this woman, time and patience is what you need. Don't push it, just take your time. Oh, and I think she likes you too, but is being very cautious.
2007-07-15 13:57:24 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just what she says and she is a very smart woman looking out for HER best interest...
It ain't over til the "fat lady" sings and in your case that "fat lady" isn't singing...not at all. She is just warming up.
In your case...you need to see a counselor because to fall for someone so quickly before your divorce is even over...you are more than likely still in the "honeymoon" phase of your infactuation with this other woman. And thankfully that is what she is probably zero'ing in on.
Take your time...seek some therapy...learn what a relationship is all about. I think anyone going thru a divorce should do that.
2007-07-07 15:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by makinitthru 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She knows that most seperated men who are not yet through the divorce process are a bad bet, if it was a long union, the man needs time to heal and find his nitch, most women will run from this situation, with good reason. She is insightful to say that if it is meant to be it will be. Give it time, and get your single legs back. I say this because I dated a man who was seperated and I just got the feeling that he was "rebounding"' so I told him that I felt he needed time, and he did need time. We may make a go of it , but not right now.
2007-07-07 15:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by Gayle L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She does not want to get involved with a married man. Even though you may be going through a divorce, it is not final, and she is being a very intelligent lady.
You should not get involved in any relationship for a least a year after your divorce is final. Rebound relationships do not work.
2007-07-07 16:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have to say that it might be possible the feelings are there, but she sees that it is important for your divorce to be final before continuing to get to know each other beyond friendship. Sometimes judges frown on things like that if the divorce is not final and one or both partners have relationships. Keep it casual until everything is finalized.
2007-07-07 15:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the lady is telling you everything take time, she doesnt want to rush into a relationship so quick. I believe she just want to take it day by day. She saying she is a patience lady, who can wait. It the divorce goes thru, you and her will take the next level of the relationship if its meant to be.
2007-07-15 13:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be in a rush to start a new relationship until you've had time to heal from ending your marriage. She is probably trying to protect her heart from moving too quickly into a relationship with a man that has a grieving process to go through.
She is right. Time and patience- what will be, will be.
2007-07-14 19:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The special lady that you met was kind enough to listen,pay attention to all the things that you told her,like what I've done to one of my male friend. I told him that getting and having a divorce will be hard because there's a history there between man and wife. It doesn't matter how bad the relationship end,still some memories will be there.
I think,just my opinion,your female friend was only giving you a boost and a shoulder to lean on,nothing less, nothing more....
2007-07-07 16:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you aren't actually divorced yet. She sounds like a classy woman who is saying not right now but later it may work. Kudos for her for wanting a man that is actually free. She may also feel you need a little healing time and doesn't want to be the rebound woman.
2007-07-07 15:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is just being cautious. Your in the process of a divorce and she doesn't want to be the temporary rebound. And perhaps she doesn't know how she feels just yet, be patient, time will tell.
2007-07-07 15:38:56 · answer #11 · answered by sara r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋