I am in the process of going through a divorce. I have met a very special woman that I have developed very strong feelings for. I have told her how I feel. Her answer to me was "time and patience - if it is meant to be it will be". What is your take on that? Are any of the same feelings there?
2007-07-07 15:24:10 · 33 answers · asked by mikemja316 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd say you have a very wise woman there. She probably does have feelings but is mature and wise enough to know that you are going through a tough time now. You and she too may feel differently after the dust settles. Good Luck.
2007-07-07 15:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Praire Crone 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think your new lady friend is right. Your just excited about smiting new. Give it time. Take your time. There is something to be said about being by yourself It could also be she doesn't want to comitt to anyone right now either. I don't know what her situation is ,is she just out of a relationship ,has she been single for a while??? Some woman feel like they dont need a man to happy, or support themselves, they are good doing it on there own and preferr it this way.. If so, just hang with her , new friends always welcome!
After a divorce you go through a lot of emotions you thought you had worked out during the separation. Just be patient and honor her.
GOOD LUCK TO ALL THREE OF YOU,
THE EX WIFE AND THE SPECIAL WOMAN AND YOURSELF.....
2007-07-14 23:24:09 · answer #2 · answered by nancy p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's scared that you're on the rebound and that she's going to get hurt. If you're just out of a marriage she possibly thinks that you'll want to play the field!
I think she's right - if you do have strong feelings for her then you do need time and patience for her to feel secure with your past and her future with you. Also you need time and patience for you to know that this woman really is the one that you want - and not because she's the first one that's come along (sorry, that's not meant to sound harsh).
Give it time and be patient and if she really is the one it'll all be worth it in the end! Good Luck! x
2007-07-14 21:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by LilyB7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you say your "going through" a divorce. If I were to woman , I would want you to get the divorce over with and give you some time to figure out what went wrong ( outside the heat or emotional aspect) I would definately want you to have time to make up your mind instead of taking a chance of getting me on the "rebound" it is really easy to confuse your feelings at a time like this and I would think that she is just being cautious. I am not saying that your confused or anything but I am guessing
2007-07-14 20:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by seymoretowns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you don't want to be lonely and are "into" this girl because she might be different than your ex. I don't know why your divorcing, but I want to say you had something to do with it if your starting to have just strong feelings for someone new. This new girl is right about you being patience, but I feel you are using her for YOUR needs during these confusing times in your life. My ex- had feelings for another during the divorce process. Got a girl pregnant within two months, 6 months later he wanted someone new. Left the mom and new baby. Another single mom and child in the world because of men weakness of not being mature.
2007-07-14 09:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Letty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is she is probably waiting for the divorce to be final. Many women get involved with men under the assumption that there is a pending divorce that never happens. Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable getting involved with a legally married man. Whatever the reason, it is true.. time and patience. When the divorce is final talk to her again.
2007-07-14 21:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mysterious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's interested in you but not ready for a committed relationship yet. she doesn't want to be a "rebound" date, if you know what I mean. Most of the time when someone is going through a divorce, it takes time to get back to feeling normal and sort out the emotions. Maybe your friend realizes that and feels that you are rushing yourself into the relationship. Take your time with her and give her space because that's what she is doing for you. .
2007-07-14 12:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes a very smart girl. You should listen to this one. You are on the rebound and your divorce is not final. One cannot start a real relationship with another still going on. Process of divorce or not. Give it time. Best of luck she sounds great!!
2007-07-14 17:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by flateach33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman cares deeply for you, however she wants to be sure that you will be hers and not hers and your soon to be ex. Your special woman knows that a divorce can take awhile depending on division of the assets, custody etc and you may still be somehow emotionally involved with your soon to be ex. She has to be sure that all the "i"s are dotted and the "t"s before investing her love and life into you any further.
Advice: Get a good lawyer to finalize your divorce and as she said, "if it is meant to be it will be."
2007-07-14 11:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by mntekor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to listen to her. You said your going through a divorce? She is a very smart woman. The feelings are probably there. Shes just being careful which means she seems to want you around.
2007-07-15 10:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by southerngirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋