I am older than my sibling, but that doesnt matter, when we get into minor arguments, it blows out of proportion bec of her anger issues? She screams on top of her lungs, acts immature, and I cant be around this type of behavior. what to do??How do I escape this? We live together, hang out all the time, I cant make time for friends bec I feel I have to hang out with her, I feel obligated so I dont upset her, I am tired of having to act this way, I need a life without hostility ..what can I do to get away and not hurt her feelings..
2007-07-07 15:09:59 · 5 answers · asked by iluvwine 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's hard for anyone to come to terms with any anger issues, It sounds like a learned behaviour from her childhood. You can try not buying into her behaviour by not arguing with her and learn to walk away, stop feeling obigated to your sister you are only giving her your power, sometimes it is best to be up front about the way you feel when she is acting immature so that she is aware of your feelings. You are the only one who can stand up and say enough is enough and live your life without hostility from your sister. It's your choice.
2007-07-07 15:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sharee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I come from a smiliar situation except my older sister is the one who yells and has anger issues, and i'm the younger sister. Of course my relationship with my sister is not at all the typical family one, were very distant. So I understand that things blow out of propotion. How old is your sister to start? And look, she is your sister and always will be, your allowed to have a life. You obviously care a lot for her, thats why you feel obligated to be around her even though you are not. Lets put some things into perspective for a second.
I can tell that you care a lot for your sister but I think maybe just a tiny little bit haha that she might be retaining you from doing what you want to do, and that's not fair. Make time for her and your friends and if she wants to blow a fit, then let her. You can't always be there for her 24/7 and its best that she learns that now. She must care for you a lot to also want you to be with her,but you have to let her understand that you have a life too. It's good to be close with your siblings but there is such thing as too close. Take it one step at a time, don't just disappear on her for a whole week because that will cause hurt feelings. But do it gradually, one step at a time, a few hours more and more. You aren't even obligated to do this, you don't have to be there for her, you don't need to have a part of your life missing because your sister is being a bother.
Do what you think is right, but have control in your life. Hope that helps =]
2007-07-07 15:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not really a simple answer to this question. You may need to put some space between you and your sister. Really you cannot change other people and until her anger causes something that is a problem in HER life she will not change....
2007-07-07 15:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by timeforchange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the same problem with one of my kids and unfortunately do not have an answer. Maybe by not hanging out with her it will show her the error in her ways especially if she asks why.
2007-07-07 15:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would start with a big stick, but honestly, you don't have to hang out with her. Go get a life.
2007-07-07 15:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by BClovis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋