My uncle has offered to GIVE me a few thousands dollars to help with relocating. His wife died in March and I know he needs someone to "take care of". I don't feel right accepting it. What do you think I should do? How would you feel if you were him??
I don't want to hurt his feelings by not accepting it, but I would feel guilty.
2007-07-07 13:15:41 · 7 answers · asked by ♥Ashley K. 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If he wants to spend is money that way, and can afford it, why not?
He'll feel good for having helped; who knows you might b in a similar position to help a niece/nephew in the future...
2007-07-07 13:24:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you will feel guilty if you accept the money, also if accepting the money or not accepting the money is causing you any guilt you have to think about it some more and make the best decision for you, and at the same time you feel you would could really benefit from a few thousand dollars. Is there any strings attached to this money?. You have to weigh up what is right for you whether to accept the money or not, you are the only one who can make that decision.
2007-07-07 20:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sharee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As this is a relative and if you are in need of the money, I see no problem with taking it. He wants to help, even if you are just someone to take care of, he wouldn't offer it if he didn't want to help. If you are adamant in not accepting it however, I would just tell him thank you so much however I have enough money right now. If I need help with anything else I will let you know.
2007-07-07 22:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by I_am_Here_and_Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More information needed.
Will you be helping him around the house and help him pay bills? Will you be acting as a power of attorney? Are you helping him transition to a nursing home or retirement community?
Be upfront. Ask him what he expects.
Quite frankly, you may end up becoming a surrogate daughter with all of the responsibilities thereof.
2007-07-07 20:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are strapped with cash, why not accept his help as a relative willing to help out.
The way you said "take care of" sounds ambiguous, if you meant as a substitute for his wife, then you should give him more time for decompression of his mental state, give him time to accept his loss.
If not you will risk more than your conscience when you accept that help. Reject temporarily if you must, if he is sincere, i guess going back to ask him later wouldnt be a problem.
2007-07-07 20:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by tempomix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept his gift. Work on improving your self-esteem. Read article below to help you with your self-esteem. Help other people. Then you will be more willing to accept the help of others.
2007-07-07 20:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is offering it to you that means you are prolly close to him therefor i would say talk to him about out it to clear up any guilt that might be gained from taking it
2007-07-07 20:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋