What to do with your man if he's too cheap to buy a ring?

Question

He works. He makes enough money to make payments. He's asked to marry me, but I still don't have a ring.

Answer 1

Don't be so superficial. Give him time. If you keep acting annoyed, it will only push him away. And he will find someone else to be grateful for him. It's just a ring......

Answer 2

While I am curious as to why the man didn't spend more if he could you leave out so much to make a decision. How many rings did the man look at? Does the ring hold some significance? (ex, a special design) What stone was used? What did the man use the rest of the money on? How did he propose? Looking only at the cost and money its hard to determine if the man is cheap. Scene #1: The man spends hours with a particular ring in mind, goes to many different stores and even looks online. Finally finds the one he's been searching for and everything is perfect about it. Even gets an inscription of something romantic. The rest of the money goes toward their nest egg for a new house or something. Scene #2: Guy goes into a store, says 'Ill take that one' and then pays and hands the woman the ring. Now, to the fact that if the woman is a gold digger or not. I have to say yes on this. To only say 'no' cause the ring costed 150 is a gold digger. If the woman just wanted to wait longer or wasn't for sure then that would be another thing.

Answer 3

Don't be fooled by mainstream commercialism that making payments on things is OK. In some states, a husband's prior financial delinquency can impact you because you may be financially responsible once you become married and collectors start knocking.

Does he have credit cards? How does he pay them each month? Minimum payments or the full balance? What is he using them for? Does he have any savings? What does he own? Remember, if the mortgage is not paid off, the bank still owns the condo/house. If he has monthly car payments, the bank/financer still owns the car. Does he gamble? Does he drink? Does he use drugs? Does he have loans to repay? Did he take out a loan to pay for bills?

Take the romance and intimacy out of the picture for a second. Once you get married, you're financial business partners in Life. You are investing yourself and your money. Would you take everything you own and give it away? Would you tear up your paycheck? Why not? It's the same when collectors come knocking.

Sit down with him and his paperwork and yours and communicate to eachother how each of you handle your money. Look at what each of you is doing. See if you are able to work together to build a stable financial future. Money and lack of communication and the combination of the two are very real issues that lead to divorce. Good luck!

Answer 4

If he is too cheap to buy a ring, that tells me he is going to be cheap with alot of other things. Make sure you love him because if you don't, you won't be happy.

Answer 5

You need to talk about it. Obviously he's not certain that you would say yes or he probably would have bought one already. There's nothing worse for a guy to buy an expensive ring and have a girl say.."I can't right now". Just talk about it.

Answer 6

Definitely leave him. If he's too cheap to buy a ring he will be too cheap for many things down the road of life. No one needs a cheapskate!!

Answer 7

Watch out.
Don't get married.
Get on VERY good birth control.
Reconsider the proposal.
Don't ignore it. He won't change after you get married.
Stop having sex with him and go back to school and get a great job and buy your own damn ring.
Find a new man.

That about sums it up. Run. It is neon sign that you should not ignore. Good thinking to question it by the way.

Answer 8

Ask him if he's going to get you a ring if not tell him for your wedding you want a 4x4 pick up truck in your name then while he's standing in the church or hall depending on your situation your on your way to my house to meet me for a real good time I have my own 4x4 we'll head down to the quarry and raise hell .

Answer 9

Is the ring more important than him? I mean seriously, have we as a society become so shallow that materials define our relationships?...yeah probably.. Maybe he is one of those smart people that doesn't like to owe money? You know the kind that actually pays outright for things? The kind that usually does have money. I know...its a novel idea...not owing hundreds if not thousands of dollars on "payment" plans...but some people actually are smart with their money. He might just not want to start out your marriage being in debt. Of course I have to wonder why your relationship is ready for marriage, and yet you aren't close enough as two people to simply ask him about a ring. You don't have to get rude, simply just ask if there is some reason he doesn't want to, or doesn't feel the need to get you a ring.

Answer 10

i think that if he really does want to marry you he would have gotten you a ring. even if he does not have alot of money he could of gotten you some sort of ring its the thought that counts after all. now if you say he is to "cheap" is because you know him better than us and know that he just does not want to spend his money. you know him and if that is the case then he is not worth it. just think of when u have kids will he buy them what they need or he will be to cheap? sure saving is good but being stingy is not!!

Answer 11

Tell him you can't answer him until you have a ring.