my boyfriend of 4 years and the father of my 17 month old son is still married but seperated for 7 years to a pman in australia(we have no clue where she is).....It is getting to me really bad and i have told him that and he says he will when he gets the $ together and i believe him but things keep coming up like him owing back taxes, etc that prevent him from saving the $ for it and it is really driving me crazy. My son is now 17 months old and i want to have him at least get the divorce before my son realizes he is stillmarried and not to his mommy. i, also have a 9 yr old daughter and i do not want her to think it is right to live with a man and not get married....i have been in a fight with him for 2 days and he has no idea what am mad at but i bring it up constanly and i am sick of doing it...what would you do in my situation? if i had the means to leave him, i would to show him this is crap...
2007-07-07 12:58:51 · 9 answers · asked by ♥Sexy Mama of 2 cuties♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my mother died last year 5 days before my son was born and she made me promise her to make him get a divorce or leave him dry
2007-07-07 13:15:11 · update #1
i feel he is leading me on and then when i tell him, he is he cries and looks genuinly sad. how hard is it to get a divorce?
2007-07-07 13:16:20 · update #2
do you think i should just start dating around til i find the one again? I can't leave him as i do not have the means but i can be sneaky
2007-07-07 13:26:29 · update #3
Go down to your local court house and find out what the process if you cannot find your mate. I believe you have to put an ad in the newspaper of where that person lives for a certain period of time and then if there is no answer he can follow through without her consent and it doesn't cost that much maybe 300. Tell him "hey babe I found out yada yada then say I going to get this started. Say it with enthusiam like you were so shocked to hear that the begining process was so easy. 2 things can happen of this that i can see
1. his wife sees the ad, and says okay lets do this and pays half
2. He will show his true colors once you start (but I think he has already shown them to you and your 9 year old)
Sorry for that litte reality check.
There is no need to get on his level, you are better than that
or are you?
2007-07-07 14:17:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are ways of getting a divorce whether you know where the other party is or not. If they had no children or property a simple is divorce is not that costly. He is dragging his feet. Could it be to that he doesn't want to make another commitment and this is his way of doing? If so than you need to re-think your relationship with him. After all it has been 7 years.
2007-07-07 14:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, but I think that you have gotten yourself into a huge mess. I think consenting adults can do whatever they want with their lives; but bringing kids into situations that are not the best for them is irresponsible, in my opinion.
I guess you'll have to accept his status and re-evaluate where you stand in this relationship. Any decent man doesn't want to have kids out of wedlock....and the fact so much time has gone by and his situation is still weird, makes me wonder what is going through his head. Good luck.
2007-07-07 13:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well there's and old saying, "Why buy the cow when the milks is free?" Not to say anything bad to you but this is what his thinking. Why get married his already living with you. This also gives him a reason not to be in anything committed.
2007-07-07 13:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. If he loves you he will fight for you and get that divorce. If he doesn't then you are done waiting on this clown.
2007-07-08 10:37:32 · answer #5 · answered by CrazygirlDD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the way you met him "A married man". Why change him now because you have a child with him?
2007-07-07 13:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
sounds like he knew what he was getting into. and now unfortunatly you have a tie with this man too.
2007-07-07 18:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by Wrestle Man 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How unfortunate you chose to have a kid with this scumbag. You knew what you were getting into...Now quit complaining.
You are a terrible role model for your kids. They do not deserve to live with this chaos.
2007-07-07 13:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Honey I've been with my man for 15 years ,we have a daughter together,and he's still married to his first wife.I'm happy to cruise along as we are.....I know he loves me so I don't stress about it.
2007-07-07 13:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋