is it wrong?

Question

is it wrong to hope that your child comes out healthy? my friend got yelled at for suggesting that in class.

Answer 1

All parents want the best for their children. There is nothing wrong with praying and hoping for a health child. No one said my child must be deaf or without an arm. But if a child is born with a disability they should still love him or her and teach him or her to make the most of what that child has.
image if someone said to Stevie you can't play piano been blind. Or no one tried teaching Helen Keller. Or Tom you can't read with your dyslexics so acting out of the question.

Accept the child for who they are. Encourage them to be their best. Fouces on their ability and do not push them To the point where they must bring home an A report card if they are a C student. Teach them to strive for an A but not as a law

Answer 2

No, every parent hopes and prays that their child is born healthy! To not hope for that is, well, a little unnatural.

I'm not saying that people with disabilities are undesirable (I'm disabled and some of the best people I know are disabled) but no expectant parent in their right mind is going to go around thinking, "Wow! I'm going to have a baby! I hope it's born blind. Or deaf. Or with no legs. Wouldn't it be great if there were complications at birth and it ended up with cerebral palsy? Oh, joy!" Come on. That's just plain dumb. No one actually wants for their child to be forced to live with a debilitating condition for the rest of their life. I know I wouldn't want for my children to have my condition. Some days I barely cope! Why on earth would I not want my child to be healthy? Of course I would love and nurture a disabled child, the same way my mother loves and nurtures me. That's not the issue!

Whoever yelled at your friend for suggesting a desire that a child is born healthy is a complete and utter moron, pure and simple. If it was the class' teacher that yelled at your friend, heaven help you all because such a person isn't fit to teach a class.

Answer 3

Its very normal for anyone to want their child to be born healthy, with ten fingers and toes where there meant to be.

We want the best for our children, and hope that they will aspire to do great things.

It sounds as if the person who yelled at your friend has a issue. So reassure your friend that they have expressed normal thoughts and feelings.

If we are unfortunate enough to have a child with a disability, it does not mean we don't love them any less or would treat them any differently, and we'd still want the best for them, its just the child's life will be a little different from what we would hope for. However we'd strive to give them the best opportunities to succeed in life despite their disability.

Answer 4

Heck no, it's not wrong for a person to want their child to have to best health possible! Whoever yelled at your friend is a little off-track.
I just went to a babyshower today, and i'm hoping that God will bless the child and give her (they got sonigrams, it's girl :D) what makes her who she is to be! If she has the health of a professional dancer, that's great, if she is born without legs, that's great too, she can learn to do something eith her arms then! One of my best friends has a disability, and i love her and I am proud of who she is, i wouldn't take her any other way!

Answer 5

No, it's certainly not wrong. While some people may be saying it out of selfishness (and I doubt anyone could say it without a little bit of selfishness), most people would certainly be more concerned about the child's welfare than their own... it's not a secret that most disabilities make things harder... that's why they're called disabilities. I wouldn't want my child to be born with a disability, simply because I wouldn't want them to have to deal with any ridicule, and any and all difficulties that come with their disability.

While some people may say it just because they think it's "weird" and would make things harder, I believe most people just want a non-disabled child for the good of the child.

Answer 6

Of course not. But it should be like hoping a child is born attractive, or smart. That's fine--as long as you don't set that as a condition for loving and nurturing that child.

I'll reserve judgement on the people in class--perhaps they misunderstood what your friend meant. That's not uncommon these days-what with efforts at "genetic screening" to eliminate "undisirable traits." (AKA racial cleansing, infanticide, and Hitler's "Final Solution"). Tell your friend to think about making the intent clear--a hope for the best, not a rejection of possible problems.

Answer 7

The people who yelled at your friend are out of line. Do we not have certain ideals and aspirations ourselves, things WE would like to be? The same applies to children.

Even if you ignore that aspect of humanity, consider the physical and emotional difficulties that are more likely to arise for one with disabilities than one without them. Why would a parent wish that on its child?

All that being said, no one should throw out a child just because it isn't what it was expected to be...

Answer 8

I don't think it's wrong, even disabled people want healthy children, but we all need to realize not all kids come out okay :) Why did she get yelled at? What class was it?

Answer 9

NO NO NO NO!

It is a wish of EVERY parent on this planet. Disability of any kind is NOT something any of us want. Why would the person who yelled at your friend want the child to be born with a disability?

This angers me. Tell them to go jump off a cliff!

Answer 10

I pray to God that if/when I have a child that my son or daughter is healthy. There is no one I know who would wish for anything else. The entire idea that any educator would suggest it is wrong to do so is ridiculous. If they implied that it was selfish or wrong to desire a healthy child...it would probably be wise to scrutinize anything they have to say about anything.