I hate my bffl but i cant leave her because then she'll go on a rampage..what do i do?

Question

Ok lets say my bestfriend is a total ***** like will kill somebody .. and then i have this other bestfriend who is the chillest person ever but i cant hang out with them because my ***** bestfriend hates her .. i wanna just leave my ***** bestfriend because shes always yelling and fighting and i dont wanna deal with it but if i do leave her alll hell breaks out and i see her every where in school we even have the same homeroom together what do i do?

Answer 1

She'll just make herself look worse if she goes on a rampage; and since she won't be your friend anymore it won't be your problem!! Don't stay friends with her because you're afraid of her, it'll only get worse as it goes along. Better sooner than later!

And if you wait too long your other friend will get pretty ticked; you're better off just doing it already.

Answer 2

Ok. What you need to do is just slowly but surely start ignoring and hanging out less and less with your friend you dont like. And if she asks why you keep ignoring her tell her that your busy with stuff. If she calls dont pick up. In homeroom dont look at her too much. Just a little so its not too noticable. Then if she says something about you not wanting to be her friend anymore than say "Im sorry but some friends drift apart and change their ways and were one of those friends." Or something like that....I mean she should have some other friends doesnt she??

Answer 3

Consider this, what is a bestfriend, and which one is the person you can most relate to, rely on, trust, get along with more, and see yourself more oftenly with 5 years from now? Think of the basics, and which one satisfies you the most, is the one you should go with, but aside from that listen to you're heart, 'cause a bestfriend that is a ***** should not get mad because you have another bestfriend, but you have to think where she gets her rage from? Maybe she's jealous she's losing you ... talk to you're bestfriend that "like will kill somebody", tell her how you feel ... if she doesen't understand ... it will show what kind of friend she is, but if she does understand, then things will definately work out. I think this is a case of jealousy, and feeling left out.

Answer 4

oh my goodness! i had like the same problem! what i did (and is working out pretty nicely) is just drift away. become suddenly uninteresting and boring. if she asks you a question just say "i don't know, ask [insert name of someone else]" if she wants to hang out tell her you have to do something else (make up a list of good excueses). when she calls don't pick up. block her on aim so she can't talk to you. she'll get bored of you really fast. also if she knows who you're crushing on, make up a boyfriend in some other state. then when you split she has nothing on you. then after you're not friends you can "dump you bf." when you talk to her just answer in oneword answers.
hang in there!

Answer 5

i know exacutally what you are going though... you should not be afraid of her though then you are letting her win. i don't mean a actual fight but she knows she has control over you maybe you understand what i am saying. you need to tell her how you feel about your friendship and make sure your parents or a friend knows exactually what is going on because they went though the same thing probley and can give you more advice about it because i do not know you lets just say people would have different advice to give you on how they would solve it but the question is does anyone of the answers you get is you??

Answer 6

I had the same thing happen with me. What I did was I told my friend that I didn't want to be best friends anymore, and for a while I just avoided her. Yeah she got really upset with me, but now we still talk. But if your friend does go on a rampage, or threaten you, just tell someone who can set her strait. If you don't want to be friends with her just tell her. Trust me, you'll be miserable if you have to hang out with her all the time, if you don't want to! I hope my advise helps!

Answer 7

You should not be afraid & just explain to her how you feel...but if you really don't want to deal with how she is going to react if you just cut her off then you should slowly drift away from her. Stop calling her as much, stop walking (in the halls I guess) as much. Then before you know it ya'll will have drifted apart...but like I said before don't be afraid to just explain to her how you feel...maybe she will realize that she is fixing to loose a dear friend and get her sh!t together & stop acting like a b. Good luck.

Answer 8

Nobody could help you. It's for you to decide, but if she would go out of control she is not worth to be called a best friend. And you could do better with someone else as a best friend for that is why you call them best friends they are suppose to be there for you and consider your needs, also advice you in difficult situations.

Answer 9

In the end if you dont want to be friends any more then just tell her. She will kick up a fuss but in the end she will move on.

Answer 10

Nag her. Nag her about everything. Tell her everytime she does something wrong or crazy. When she tires of this, Bye Bye Best friend. If it's her idea to split, you both win.