Do you believe in hitting your young kids to make them act properly?

Question

Why/why not?....and please tell what race/ethnicity you are

Amber.....I keep hearing that most white ppl won't hit their kids while most other races/ethnicities do - even Carlos Mencia had a skit on it.....so far, generally, it seems to be somewhat true looking at the answers this thread is getting

I'm white, and I barely ever got hit as a kid

Answer 1

white and sometimes they need 1 wipen for major things just to keep them in line

Answer 2

No, I don't believe in hitting a child or anyone for that matter. However, there is a difference in "child abuse" and disciplining a child with a spanking on their rear. Many years ago, when I was coming up, if children "acted up" in school for example, they were spanked immediately. (with a belt or paddle). Kids respected this as they knew the consequences of mis-behaving in school, and usually, when they got home they would get another spanking. Even in the Bible it says "Spare the rod and spoil the child", but that's another matter as many people don't accept the Bible today.

Kids today talk back to their parents, throw temper tantrum's, mis-behave in the home and in public places without much discipline other than something like "You need to behave" or other words that don't carry any weight with the situation.

If my children were still young and not acting accordingly, they would still get a spanking like they used to, which wasn't very often.

I am white.

Answer 3

I was never physically disciplined. However, my mom still managed to be very strict and demanded my respect. I turned out alright. Then again, I've benn told that I was one of those kids who usually did what they were told so I guess that is why my parents never had to resort to that sort of punishement.

My sister's kids are insane...literally. You can often find them jumping and running around the house and won't do as they're told. My sister has tried to use my mom's approach but it simply doesn't work on them so she does hit them every now and then. It sometimes seems like the only way to get them to understand.

I think that ultimately, the kid's personality dictates what kind of discipline is necessary.

I'm of latino heritage by the way. And I've noticed that it is highly unheard of a hispanic parent not hitting their children. Just for the record, I am more than grateful my mom never hit me. It just means that there's no resentment between us whatsoever.

Answer 4

It used to be that's all you had to do to get a child to act right. Children nowadays seems much more brazen then when I was a child. For instance I was in the store and I heard a child tell her mom to shut the hell up!, If I would have said that to my mom, I wouldn't have been able to sit down for a week. also, not trying to be racist, but what is the majority race you see on nanny 911 or super nanny?, obviously "time out" just doesn't cut it, and I'm a black american.

Answer 5

I think it is more acceptable in some cultures, but essentiallly i disagree with physical punishment, although there have been one or two times in the last 10 years I have resorted to it. It is more a problem when the parent is totally frustrated by actions that can harm the child or by total disrespect/nasty behavior. In the end we should be working towards not resorting to hitting.

Answer 6

YES!!!!

People who don't believe it is ok to hit kids when they are really bad, have never had them. Sometimes " Honey, don't do that" just doesn't cut it.

I can't stand it when kids back talk adults and act like they are in charge. I have no problem with a well deserved spanking if conventional methods of discipline don't work.

Answer 7

Im white. I have a 4 year old boy, we are the best of friends. He really has to be bad to catch a spanking. It's not the force you use. I barely touch him and he knows I mean business. He is already more afraid of disappointing me than he is making me angry. He is a great kid.

Answer 8

Well I don't think so just tell them no don't do that one more time or take something that love away in till there about 4 or 5 or 6 Start to hit them or pinch them on there ear.

Answer 9

No. It's really not effective. I was spanked a lot growing up and I kind of resent my parents for it now. I think there are better ways to parent than hitting. BTW, I'm white.

Answer 10

I do.I'm mixed with black/white/puerto rican/when mommy pops the hand they know that they've done a big no no and I always tell him what he has done wrong.I don't pop him unless he's done something major,like biting someone,or saying a bad word.Other than that he's a very good boy and doesn't need phyical punishment

Answer 11

White American. I think there are better ways. My dad used to spank me and it was a power thing with him. I think it may have been the start of my rebellion or at least contributed to it. If you are going to spank a kid it should be with the hand, it should be quick and not delayed. Nor should it be in anger.