well my BFF just told me she was gay and likes me. So then she says, "It doesnt matter what you think, i'm not going to talk to you ever again anyways." But i still want to be friends bc i'm ok with that as long as she understands how I feel about taht (which i already told her, i like boys) but she won't talk to me..and I dont know what to do!!! hellpp me please
PS: we are like..14 years old and so as you kno lots of ppl question their sexuality around this point. so she mite not be and just care about me alot..but yeah what can i say to make her feel better??
2007-07-07 11:35:14 · 6 answers · asked by maddy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Perhaps some of her reluctance is due to her feeling embarassed at having told you she liked you when you don't feel the same way. Give her a little time and space, and if she hasn't reopened the communication herself, try again to reassure her that you want to be her friend, only her friend, and that her own sexuality doesn't matter to you.
Good luck.
2007-07-07 11:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by emily_brown18 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
She probably is gay, because few people go through the stress and anxiety of coming out if they're just in a phase.
She might think that you would reject her, and so she got you before you could get her. In that case, I suggest that you call her and explain that you're completely accepting and still want to be her friend, that her coming out doesn't change anything in your eyes.
Or, she might not want to be around you because she likes you. I felt the same way a while ago... I had a crush on my ultra-catholic straight friend, and it was just so awkward (at least for me, she didn't seem bothered) for us to hang out, because I was so attracted but I knew there was no chance of her being attracted. So maybe she is keeping away from you so that she does not have to be in an awkward position.
In that case, you could still call her, but don't make hanging out a big deal. She may just need time to stop crushing on you.
2007-07-07 11:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Rat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could continue to be friend and you should not twist your sexuality because of her. tell her that her that you r straight and what ever she is you like her as a friend and that where the story ends. if she cant except that then quit.
2007-07-07 11:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by Nomimi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As u said, u r still exploring your sexuality. It's a phase. It will pass. Don't b rude. Tell her this in a nice way. U will know how, BFF, remember?
2007-07-07 11:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
its not a phrase she is prolly gay because you usually know when your pretty young. Umm... I say just try and talk to her.
2007-07-07 11:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by Awakened 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i agree
2007-07-07 11:40:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋