He left his email opened and this was sent a few months back to an ex he hasn't been with for years or seen. We've been married for only a year. One more thing, he also send a similar email to another ex. Should I worried? Why is he contacting them?
2007-07-07 11:31:42 · 15 answers · asked by luvbaseball 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He came home a few weeks ago for his R&R (A Marine) from Iraq and now he's back over there. He contact these ex-s via email. I sort of mentioned about contacting ex-s and he said they only wanted to see how he was doing. Then why say he misses them, right?
2007-07-07 11:49:35 · update #1
With the miles between us, we have a great marriage (at least in my opinion). During his R&R, we had a great time. The sex was great, has always been for us. I keep him satisfy in everyway. While he's over there, I entertain him through webcam & pictures. I sent tons of packages and letters. I said he loves me and misses me. Now I'm kind of rethinking about those words.
2007-07-07 11:56:53 · update #2
I came to reanswer this question after seeing additional details :).... if the women contacted him first, and he responded (perhaps a little too eagerly) could it be he is just overly excited about people contacting him while he is away? Maybe he is well satisfied and happy with your current relationship status but gets excited about others checking in to see how he's doing since he is probably going through a lot. It is like going away to camp as a child, even if the neighbor you've hated for years sent you a letter, would you not be excited that they noticed you were gone and write them back as if you've always loved them? You're just excited you got a letter and someone thought about you while you were away! :) I just think he may be happy to hear from people back at home. If it is still a concern for you I would approach it in a more serious manner without making accusations or passing any judgements and just say it is making you uncomfortable.
2007-07-07 11:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by lovelife 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes it's easier to look backwards and romanticise what life was like with ex's. I find whenever I'm tempted to do that, I'm usually bored or not happy with what I'm doing right now. There's something missing in my life. The truth is, it's nothing that's wrong with my life, it's how I'm looking at it. It's up to me to look for the positive things that are going on in my life right now, and stop looking for answers with ex-boyfriends. So, what can you do? Counselling - both of you. Or you can start looking at working together to make your relationship stronger. How can he appreciate what he has now more? He needs to be grateful for his present reality and look forwards, not back.
It's okay to think about our past lovers, but to be healthy, he really needs to start looking and working towards a future with you.
2007-07-07 11:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow! thats hard to deal with. so this was a few months back? .........well he hasn't broken up with u, so maybe he was just tryin to get things off his chest. if he wanted them that bad he would have gotten ahold of them. and prolley wouldn't b with u anymore. its tough tho because if u confront him about it then he won't trust u as much but this is only a year in your marriage so ...... if u can keep checkin his email. i know its bad but i think this should be an exception.
2007-07-07 11:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by babyashweed1221 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's preoccupied with contacting and misses his ex wives / girlfriends one thing is for sure, somethings amiss with your marriage!
Yes, a degree of concern is understandable AND I would be. If there are no children from the previous relationships what's there to talk about? They are his EX's.
2007-07-07 11:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should be worried. Talk to him ... find out what is going on! He wouldnt be contacting them and saying that if he wasnt lacking in something at home.
2007-07-07 11:35:04 · answer #5 · answered by funnybird34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right to be worried. It doesn't automatically mean that he's cheating. But if I had to guess, I'd say that he's at least considering it.
The fact that he left it up could mean that he wanted to (if even only subconsciously ) get caught.
2007-07-07 11:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by kellogg_79 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to talk to him about what you found and get to the bottom of this. I would be worried my daughter went through this, what a mess she was engaged.
2007-07-07 12:31:47 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious? He's texting another woman saying he wants her to contact him and you are wondering if you should be worried? Wake up sweetheart.
2007-07-07 11:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm... well I definetely would'nt suspect he's cheating hmm....
ARE YOU BLIND! HE IS GOING TO CHEAT ON YOU WITH HIS EX'ES HE IS ALREADY HAVING AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR!
if I were you I'd
a- get marrage counsiling
b- talk it out with him
c- beat him to the divorce!
2007-07-07 11:35:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah honey be worried...he is one cheating bastard..tell him what you know than check his reaction, he starts giving you excuses pack your bags or toss him out!!!
2007-07-07 11:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋