what has worked for you?
2007-07-07 10:25:33 · 6 answers · asked by applemartini 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I agree .... you have to love and value yourself first!!! I know you have probably heard this all before but it really must sink in. Sometimes it takes a lot of practice!! The more you practice, the better you become at recognizing people who are not good for you. Ask yourself, are you giving more to the relationship then they are to you?? Are you filling a void that cannot be filled by a person? You have to pursue your passion in life first and healthy people will come your way. You should not have to work so hard at a relationship (especially in the beginning). Marriage is different. You have to be willing to sacrifice and give all of yourself. Just have fun! Don't put labels on things. There is nothing more unattractive then a very needy, insecure person. Work on yourself! You cannot change certain things about you. If you love yourself, other people will love you for who you are! Look into a professional "life coach." It really helped me in this area when I was going through this.
2007-07-07 10:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jojo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think about how alone I will be the rest of my life if I fail to overcome my insecurities - soon. No one is perfect. Sooner or later you will meet someone who you do not feel insecure around. That person will make you feel secure in spite of your insecurities. But you will not meet that person unless you take a few chances and try to meet him. We are all unique. We are all different. We all have our strengths and our weaknesses.
2007-07-07 18:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It truly depends on what the insecurities are, and the person who has them. What I usually tell people is to wait it out.. go have FUN with that person, and even go as far to make a small "pact" with them that you just want to have fun. Usually that works and you get comfortable with them. Comfort leads to insecurities being used in a positive way/
2007-07-07 17:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to close your eyes and take a chance. Stifle the insecurities for a moment and try it.
2007-07-07 17:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need to talk to a therapist to help you resolve this issue. For me, I realized that as long as *I* cared about myself...loved myself for the person that I am, I would always have at least one person I could count on. Besides, if you don't love your own self *for* yourself, **WHY** should anyone else?
2007-07-07 17:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love urself more....i guess i havent really overcome mine..lol that's why i dont want a relationship... i have few friends...but they think im either too possesive or too controlling.. hah..
2007-07-07 18:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋