Being a recluse/introvert.. is it bad?

Question

Its widly kind of seen in soceity/culture as a negative thing if you're are an RECLUSE or introvert.Why is this?

Answer 1

It ain't bad - but it ain't good either. Most folk think that couples were meant for each other, that absolutely everything in a 'persons' life is hunky-dory - though it ain't.

Its a darn shame to think that it is so.

People tend to be themselves if they are left alone. Some folk want to be alone and get away from all the stress that causes their illness.

Its sad world that doesn't understand stuff and all its 'one-sided-ness'.

Introvercy is a born feature - you don't learn it.

Becoming a recluse is what people or society makes of you - if it makes you feel sick, then that's how low society is - wreck less!

Ever heard the quote 'get in shape'?

There is a time to think about stuff like that.

Being a recluse is a sad thing because you get everyone talking about you and there's nothing you can do about it. So ignore it!

Did you ever hear the story of a person who was never alone?

He wanted to be alone in order to create a rocket to go to the moon - yet he was unfairly being interrupted by everyone and got nowhere fast.

By shutting everyone out, he found time to realize what he was doing.
Though when his waiting was over, left earth for the moon. And when he arrived there he sorta missed the interferring people on earth.
Sad, sad story really - though as most stories go has two-sides to it and has a happy ending.

Rocket for sale! Only one owner.

Answer 2

Recluse and introvert are different things. Being a recluse is extreme, being introverted is normal. I'm an introvert and a shy person and most of the time people interpret my shyness and the fact that I don't always enjoy to socialize the wrong way. They think I'm cold/snobbish/stuck up/uninteresting. But over the years I've learned to appreciate that side of myself : if these people are so superficial that they don't want to look past that first impression, then I'm not interested in them either. I find that I usually meet more interesting people that way. Just because someone talks a lot doesn't mean they have things to say. I just wish our society would see that (especially for job interviews, they always choose the extroverts no matter what the qualifications are...)

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Bad in relation to what? There are many different personality types, and none are objectively better than others, although some may be more valued in specific areas - say, extroverts would be more obvously suited to be politicians or entertainers than introverts would be, and introverts would be more suited to technical pursuits, research,and 'out of the limelight' positions. Everyone has to find a way to fit in and achieve what ever they consider to be success.

Answer 5

Those are 2 different things. A person who is a recluse has nothing to do with other people, and is stunted in social interaction of the most basic kind.

A mere introvert can behave and mingle just like anyone else, they are just more inside themselves, more so than its opposite, extrovert.

It is obvious that a recluse is an unhealthy thing to be. An introvert is simply not an extrovert.

Answer 6

Being "aloof" to the point you are seen as others as antisocial usually means something is wrong whether you wish to view it that way or not. Most skills hominid sentients of this world need to survive are learned from other hominids, thus the genetic disposition to be "social" has served us in our evolution towards ascension.

However many "necessary" evils prevail in our civilized human world and many spiritual beings in the material reality are drawn to eshcew the world. Hermits go back as long as human memory. The Cathar rebels are one group that come to mind.

I f social anxiety is the reason for the reclusiveness there is treatment available. I eschew the soul numbing, liver poisoning, scientifically unproven patent medicines of major drug companies as much as I can. The bottom line is all they are really after, so if a chemical compound works at say 15mg in a test subject, the lab keeps pushing the amount up until severe side affects are noted. Many natural remedies are around, mint tea is a fantastic one, never heard of any deaths via mint medley teas. OK, time to go out of my house, I force my reclusive Virgoan bio-shell out daily whether I need to or not. Blessings to you

Answer 7

I think its great. Yes you may miss out on social things, and some people may even think of the person as rude. That is the negative thing. Atleast you dont go to parties and act stupid, or speak out of turn!!! Its always good to push to have a great time, but being an intovert has many more advantages than laying your skeletons out on a table.

Answer 8

My brother has been a recluse for many years now, lives in the Sierra Cascade Mountains of Northern California and Oregon. He once lived in Alaska, the wilderness.
When in society he's always in trouble, the cops seem to pick him out, he challenges them, beats the crap out of up to five and six at a time, ends up in jail. He just did four years for kicking the hell out of four cops that tried to arrest him for vagrancy.

He's been away from the family for many years, has psychology problems the Vets hospital said is associated with the service.

I would like to see him again before my time is up, I'm in poor health. Every time he's with the family, there's trouble. By the way, he took all state champions in gymnastics for years in a row, he can still handle himself.

Last I heard, he was in the mountains again, after living under a bridge in Cal. He is a recluse. Lives in a bubble, lets those in that think like him, if you don't better watch out.

Answer 9

It often is the result of depression or de-socialization. These things are negative because the lead to mental illness and other sad things.

We are social creatures and NEED social and physical contact. just find some people you can relate to. It is easier said than done though so know that it will take some effort. It will reward you though.

You don't have to party but you should get your voice out there and hear others. Isolation breeds a variety of insanities. If you are alone in your mind you have no one to confirm or deny reality with. That is essential to being able to live a healthy life. Without feed back you may end up thinking things like, the world is... everybody is like this... etc. In other words you begin to deal in absolutes because you mind is not being tempered which makes it even harder for you to mesh with others.

Answer 10

Being a recluse is an extreme. People think you are wierd becuase you do not interact with anyone. However ....it is perfectly acceptable to prefer being alone if you sometimes have occasional social interaction.