My parents were alcoholics, should this make a difference in a person or are our characteristics our own?

Question

To search ones soul or inner self.

Answer 1

I love mom and dad but here goes.........(no shame,no blame)
I don't know,however my parents were functioning alcoholics who were more worried about being frowned on by society for their perfectly dressed children speaking out of turn in public,then for having their children in steak house cocktail lounges playing pin-ball with one another,fighting and throwing up Shirley temples in the bar bathrooms starting at the age of 6.
Because they were just going to have one more martini before we went into have dinner.
Anyway its genetic and in the gene pool,its just knowledge of that and what you do with it,that makes or breaks you in this world.
If you have two parents who both are troubled with addiction,chances are,you don't have a chance not to be riddled with the same mis-fortune.
Our decisions our are own,if both parents are alcoholics and we chose to drink and drink responsibly and are mad as H*ll because we can't drink or use (in my case) with any moderation,responsibility or sanity,then I would go back to,guess that its genetic and the odds weren't real high that I would be any different,in-fact I have probably got it the worst,its just something I have to deal with and I don't blame anyone..I had a great time for a long time partying "down" with mom and dad,but the party has to end sometime,and for me,I would rather not do it at all then in moderation.(only because I can't and thats what infuriates me!!)

Answer 2

People who inherit the unlucky genes that cause cancer can choose to put themselves at a lower risk through several techniques. Stress is often attributed to 'turning on' certain genes. Scientific studies have consistently found that children of alcoholics are likely to be alcoholics too. Some doctors even have the equipment to test for such a disposition.

Addiction, or dependence, is characterized by a loss of control over a drug. There is some interesting literature on this.

One simple way to predict if you will be an alcoholic is to think about your alcohol tolerance. If you have some experience with alcohol, does it take you more drinks than average (adjusted for weight and gender, food in stomach) to get drunk? If you are a 'light-weight' it will be unlikely that you will loose control over alcohol. There is a strong relationship between being a 'heavy-weight' and being an alcoholic.

If you are predisposed to be an alcoholic that means you lack control over the drug. You should not continue to experiment with it if this is the case. You could check out some techniques to feel comfortable around people who are drinking while you are not.

Check out scholar.google.com for some professional journal articles on the topic!

Answer 3

You can definitely be your own person, however, growing up with alcoholic parents had to have some impact on you. I grew up with a bipolar mom and it affected me for a long time. Just the confusion of having a mom with extreme personalities and never knowing which one would meet you at the door after school. Like it or not, our parents, siblings and other family members have a big impact on who we are and how we feel about ourselves as well.

Answer 4

Our characteristics ARE our own, or at least under our control. Since your parents were alcoholics, you run a greater than normal risk of becoming one yourself. For the rest of your life you will need to keep your own drinking in check.

Answer 5

Personal experience ... my natural mother and her whole family were lushes who could not handle alcohal. My natural dad was German, and seemed to have a tolerance for alcohal; however, he did seem to enjoy it too often.

My dad (who raised me alone) always told me, "Never get mad while drunk" ... and "you're most likly going to be an alcoholic too so be careful." IMO, talking about sex w/parental units was more comfortable than when dad lectured me on alcohal. His lectures did sink in. I only got mad once while drinking; and it was quite dangerious. Plus, after college, I stopped being interested in daily consumption of alcohal. I still hear my dad's lectures silently running through my head when I've have more than one drink. So IMO, the inner self won.

Answer 6

Honestly, children of alcoholics are very likely to become alcoholics, caretakers and/or dependent upon drugs.

When one grows up with drama and pain, it is what they know as the norm, and seek that out. It often takes hitting bottom before they change that need.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Most people who are alcoholics are bothered by low bloodsugar.They feel miserable and then they take a drink.this lifts them up,for a while.
They can avoid this by eating more protein in their diet.
Cut out flour and sugar and then the need for alcohol is less.
Eat well this is the secret.I guess everybody is responsible for him/herself what they put in their mouth.

Answer 9

I am a kindred spirit with you; it has made absolutely no difference in the world to me. I am who I am and their influence has no bearing over me. When you get older, you will find that you will gravitate to the people of your choice. You have the inner fortitude to become who you want to be.....Keep in mind that your parents are not you, and you are not your parents; hence you can be who you wish to be....God Bless

Answer 10

You have grown up around alcohol and can probably see the negative effects it has caused on your family. I think "YOU" decide what you put into you body not your mom or dad especially if it is something you know is harmful for you.