Ok my family had a party for my grandparents anniversary five years ago and it was supposed to be a family thing (it was my grandparents 55th) and we had this party and my aunts/uncles basically did not include my family in this at all...they didn't allow us to do anything even though it was supposed to be a group effort. Now for their 60th, the same thing happened again, and it was my aunt's fault. she gave everyone else something to do except my family. They never said what had to be done and wouldn't allow us to do anything. They kept it all secret and wouldn't talk about it with us. The party happened, and we didn't go, but now we have to see them after this and what should we do? should we straight out yell? This really frustrates my mom....help? Thanks
2007-07-07 07:41:38 · 3 answers · asked by daisy 4 in Travel ➔ United States ➔ Other - United States
It sounds like they are on a major power trip. The best way is to do nothing about it. In my experience, what these types of people are looking for is confrontation and fireworks. When you don't give them what they want, THEY are frustrated and upset, not YOU. Explain to your grandparents, quietly and away from these control-freaks, that you would have gone to the party had you felt welcomed. When you see these people again, be polite. Life is TOO SHORT for grudges. Take the high road and be the better person.
2007-07-07 17:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by MyersKnook 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might get more answers in another section, like relationships, but ...
Some people like to be controlling in family situations, and your aunts and uncles may be in that classification. Sometimes it's easier to just let them have their way and go along with them. If it bothers your side of the family, though, talk it over with them and see if a compromise can be reached.
The one being hurt by your lack of an appearance is your grandparents, so you'd think people could work it out for their benefit. But that can be easier said than done.
2007-07-07 09:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by wdx2bb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not look reasonable. What must you do? Well, you may have choices... Put everybody on a guilt travel, or no longer move, or as soon as once more, be the higher man or woman. Go to the get together and shake his hand. You're correct, they have not given you the appreciate you deserve.
2016-09-05 18:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by duktig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋