I am 21 years old and I have basically raised my 15 year old sister by myself from the time she was born up until a few years ago. My step mom takes really good care of her and loves her, but my sister isn't happy there. I was molested by my father and I am afraid he might molest her too, if he hasn't already. I want to take her from there. She wants to be with me also and I only want what's best for her. She is also chronically depressed and she has said she wants to kill herself. I know I can help her because when I was around she was so happy and cheerful. Please tell me if there is any way to get her. How do I start?
2007-07-07 07:18:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anayden 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I am married and I have 2 kids and my own place already.
2007-07-07 07:28:58 · update #1
First of all, your sister should get mental health counseling for her chronic depression and her statements of saying she wants to kill herself.
This is serious and you could help her by first calling the school counselor who will initially help with networking her to the proper counseling center.
Secondly, Do you have proof or anyone have documetation that your father molested you. Did you tell any authority about your trauma? If not you need to report it, most States have a 7 year time period that you can report the sex abuse. If not, report it immediately to the Police.
Your Sister should not be living with a sex offender !
You should get all the documentation that you possibly can and then you can go to Court and ask for Legal Custody. This is quite the process and will take time.
Your sister will be 16 years old and in most States she can leave and live with you without her parents permission. You would have to obtain Legal Guardianship of her through the Courts though, esp. if you want to enroll her in school.
Legal Counsel would be recommended to speed up the process.
Best of Luck to You and Your Sis !!
2007-07-07 07:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by krissyderic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go pull out the Yellow Pages right now and look up a lawyer for child advocacy rights and call. NOW. That will get the ball running. You get that girl out of that house any way you can. Tell the the lawyer what your father did to you. Are you still reading this? You should already be dialing that phone.
2007-07-07 07:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by RobinLu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe your sister is old enough to make the choice where she lives, but call a lawyer or as suggested go to the courts and have them represent you so no mistakes are made.
All the concerns mentioned are things you need to consider, but if it is better for your sister to live with you, things will work out. Please don't wait to make the offer to your sister to come and stay with you. Once there, you will have a better chance of her being able to stay. Please don't let that man have another second of her life.
2007-07-07 07:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your father molested you and you are afraid that she is in danger, call child protective services immediately. Let them know that you are of age and that you want to be her foster mother. What you are doing is wonderful, and you are a great person for caring so much.
2007-07-07 07:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by ItsJustMe 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
"It's just me" gave you an excellent answer. You CAN and Must look after your sister. My older sister did the same for me when I was 14. You are old enough and responsible enough and you can do it. Please keep us informed about the outcome. Call Child protective services today.
I see Robin Lu also told the same. Go ahead!
2007-07-07 07:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot adopt your sibbling, but you can get custody of your sister..You will have to be able to provide to her, and at 21 I am not sure if you can do that...
Good luck
2007-07-07 07:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole E 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you want to take on this responsability as your are a very young yourself and you would have to look after her and it would deeply interfear with your life.
You won't be able to do the things you would usualy want to do.
will you be able to cope financially
i think you would get child benefit money from her but you would have to work and support her also she will be having her GCSE exams will you be able to handle this huge responsibility
2007-07-07 07:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by koolkid2168 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go to the courts
2007-07-07 07:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by joe b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋