Hi', I'am a 18 years old boy. I've been masturbating for 4-5 years now. I got addicted to porn and masturbating. The most time I'm looking and downloading porn and pictures from the internet and I have to masturbate every day. if I don't masturbate one day the next day I'm only thinking about that and porn. please help me to reduce watching pornos and masturbating. it takes me too much time, I think it's a problem i I would like to stop, at least that to reduce the porn and masturbating. I spent today 4-5 hours watching porn on the net and masturbating, and it's often like today. I could use the time better. i tried to stop watching and masturbating for a few days, but I couldn't. I only though to watch porn and masturbate. after 2-3days i couldn think about anythink else,I was absent-minded and not concentrated on other things.
Please help.
2007-07-07 07:05:25 · 20 answers · asked by Blue001 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Most things in moderation is OK........ even porn....... Sounds like you have gone over the edge....... Might be time for professional counseling or SA (Sexaholics Anonymous ) check out their web site on www.sa.org........ Only you can decide if it's a problem, but if it's all consuming.... that's not good......
2007-07-07 08:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by PNSGUY 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually it's easier to replace a bad habit with a good habit instead of just trying to get rid of the bad habit, So find something you can do instead of watching porn, something that you will enjoy in a non-sexual way or that makes you feel good about yourself. Maybe go running or shoot baskets. Maybe during the time of day when you're used to watching porn, arrange to do some serious volunteer work. Set a goal of two extra A's on your next report card and study hard at the library instead of coming home and turning on the smut.
Don't let porn conrol you -- you need to get in charge of your own life and how you spend it. Porn is really unhealthy and teaches guys to regard females as objects instead of treating them as equal human beings, and it sets totally unreal expectations (such as how big a penis is supposed to be -- the ones on porn are mostly digitally enhanced). Breaking this bad habit is an important way to earn some real self-respect.
You could consider getting a filter on your computer (something like NetNanny) that will make it harder to access the filthy stuff. BTW, porn sites are very likely to give you a computer virus.
Keep at it even if you slip a few times. You are a valuable person, and you should spend your time doing things that make you proud of yourself, not watching some sicko sex stuff. Sex is beautiful at the right time with the right person. Don't let porn pollute it for you.
Masturbation without the porn is normal -- don't worry about that. But you need to get rid of your porn addiction as fast as you can.
Good luck!
2007-07-07 15:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by Maple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it's okay, alright? It's not your fault. Especially because from the sound of it, you were possibly molested. I am definitely hearing some red flags. Some amount of exploratory masturbation is natural at those sorts of young ages. The fact that you remember doing it repeatedly since you were four, though, suggests that this was pretty frequent and possibly ritualistic, which tends to be a sign of sexual abuse or at least being exposed to some sort of very sexual material at a very young age. Is there a counselor at your school possibly, who is trained as a psychologist? Like does he or she have a degree on the wall? That would be a good person to talk to. Or you could talk to your parents about it, and have them look into therapists. I know that's scary, but the sooner you start talking to a professional about this, the more the negative effects it could have on your sexual development will be reduced.
2016-05-20 23:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Addict.
You are not alone . I feel for you seriously. I am in the same shoes. I have the same problem. When I was a bachelor it was somewhat okay even though I still felt guilt doing it at the time. I could not stop at one flick...I would buy several and masturbate 3 to 4 times a day... I would go from movie thearter to movie theater...I felt so much guilt...so much anguish. Getting married does not help either as I have not stopped. I still want to sleep with many women without actually sleeping with them. women I cant get in real life....I wish someone could help us both.
2007-07-07 07:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy you have an issue. I have the same problem. It stops you from getting anywhere in life if you let it.
I finally realized what has been happening and there are so many constructive things I need to be doing. I have been married for 18-years and do not know how I have made it this long in my marriage. I think it is for my children's sake. My wife and I tried having sex the other day, but she has gained a lot of weight and it was not too exciting for me. It has been almost a year since the last time we did it.
What I am trying to say is that if you do not have an outlet (girlfriend or significant other) for your needs it is very easy to get addicted to the hotties on the Internet. It consumes you, and it was consuming me. I have gotten my problem under control somewhat and still working on it. Focus on something that is going to create you some money so you can have a future and maybe a hottie to go to bed with each night. http://www.website.ws/goeselek#ticket check it out! This is what I have been doing and it has been keeping me busy.
2007-07-07 07:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by KG 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stop the porn now...just don't watch it, don't buy it don't order it. Masturbate all you want, but try taking up some time working out. It will help release some of the same endorphines and might help your decrease in need. Also get a job! Sounds like you have waaaay too much time on your hands...no pun intended!
2007-07-07 07:17:48 · answer #6 · answered by tamrn02 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try getting a hobby to take your mind off of it.
As for the excessiveness of each of them....
I suggest becoming more social and stay in public places (malls, parks, etc) more often. That way, it would be practically impossible for you to get your hands on some porn (or your penis).
It would be impossible for you to stop all at once, so rather than 4-5 hours of porn, try 1-2 (same idea goes for masturbating).
It's hard to quit, but if you have a LITTLE willpower, you can do it.
2007-07-07 07:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
have a friend put a block on all porn sites, and the password to unblock it should be one only he knows. DO IT. This way, you'll have no choice but to cut back. You'll be forced to go to the video store if you have an urge which sucks. Or you can, i dont know, GET A REAL LIFE GIRL!
2007-07-07 09:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
www.xxxchurch.com They have a program designed just for that. Get a friend of yours that you trust, and know will keep it confidential. Its more of a support system, the more you talk about it and how much of a waste it is, the more you will forget about doing it and move on to other more beneficial things.
2007-07-07 19:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by Will H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Talk 2 Ur folks. They mite get mad & wont leave U alone. Esp sisters! If U cant find help or ways 2 stop see counselor.
2007-07-07 07:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by loidfish 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋