i know some dont like your inlaws, and you try so hard to be nice ect.... YOU DID NOT MARRY YOUR INLAWS.me and my husband deal with our families seperate and we do not involve eachother with our families issues, and it works out great...im not saying stay away from your inlaws, im saying to dont get involved and dont discuss your marriage issues with them, it only causes more problems, the reason i said you did not marry your inlaws is because if you feel they dont like you, your mate does, and thats all that matters, my mom always says you say more with your mouth shut, than you do when you open it.you married your mate, you 2 are your own family, i pray for all you married couples and hope your marriages flourish.
2007-07-07 06:15:43 · 7 answers · asked by amy j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im not trying to judge and hurt anyone, im just trying to help with some who have issues with this, im sorry if i offended some
2007-07-07 07:37:17 · update #1
Thank you. My in laws too like to stick their noses in my business and over the years I have also stayed away when ever possible, it's the best choice I ever made. One thing about my in laws is they continually talk about me to everyone behind my back and to my face they are all sweet and nice, it makes me sick. Avoidance is the key to a well adjusted in law relationship lol
2007-07-07 06:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by I'm Here 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the partners cling to each other and keep their families out of it, great, but most partners don't do that. Somehow or another, the in-laws will get involved, and if they have opinions different from the other partner, then it's WWIII. And I hate to disappoint you, but when you marry the man, you marry the family, like it or not, and when you have children, there's even more family connections.
It might work for you but not for hundreds of others.
2007-07-07 13:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a good advice. some people marry the whole family. everybody should just realize that they married only one person, that while the whole family comes with that, at the end of the day, only two people are involved.
2007-07-07 13:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by Carlo_ice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most probably, it is becoz married couples were afraid of what their inlaws will say and treat them......
they don't want to be criticize on any thing that's why they kept distance as much as they can, that is just one of what i thought why married couples chooses to build homes on their owns far away from their family of relatives.....
anyway, who cares on what others say, u chose to be together so who cares what others said, as long as you live and love both of you will work it out!
2007-07-07 13:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, SOME folks' in-laws are intrusive, nosy and interfering, and you CAN'T deal with them separately...especially when there's grandkids involved.
Thank your lucky stars you have it so good, and don't be so quick to judge unless you know the whole story!
2007-07-07 13:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this may be tru, but no one wnats their in-laws to not like them! Now kissing A@@ is not an option, but being respectful is a MUST they will b the one feeling like A@@__ if they don't treat u well and respect u1
2007-07-07 13:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They worry about it so much because they just want everyone to get along. I guess if your way works for you, go for it.
2007-07-07 13:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋