I met this guy online, sounds crazy but i started to fall in love with him. 3 months of seeing each other he told me he was leaving the city to work for 10 days, he didnt come back, My parents were concerned abt me (b/c they arranged my 1st marriage and helped me out of it)to my surprise i found out from the place where he worked that he left work & city permanantly. I confronted him and he was crying and said he was sorry and what not.
Though we were still in contact thru the phone
i found out 2 months l8r he was seeing another woman, I talked to her & She told me they were engaged and he moved to that city for her, he met her parents, though he refused to see my parents. I confronted him and he said he was leaving her b/c he loved me, i gave another chance when he moved back to the city i was in and 3 mnths l8r found out he ws seeing another grl. he said he would kill himself if i left him, i married him and dont trust him still aftr 2 mnth of marriage. p.s he has no immigration :(
2007-07-07 05:57:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since we've been married he hasnt actually gone or talked with any other woman, he has given all his passwords to me and basically i could feel his attention towards me, he tells me that he feels very bad for what he's done with in the past and promises that it wont ever repeat..but still part of me is still scared to trust him..
2007-07-07 08:49:50 · update #1
After all he has done, you still went ahead to marry him and now you are asking of you should leave your husband??
Without trust in a marriage, how can it survive? You don't want to spend the rest of your life playing detective, trying to keep tab on his cheating, do you?
Doesn't look like he takes marriage seriously and he seemed so busy moving to different cities, getting different jobs and seeing different women. Leave him, move on and learn to make smarter choice in the future.
2007-07-07 06:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Didi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this guy is no good, i mean, apparentley he isn't going to change...and believe me alot of men use the ol, i'll kill myself without you speech, but he won't....if you really are not happy and don't want to be with this man don't let what he said stop you from being happy, but you two did get married for a reason, you must care about each other, talk to him, tell him how your feeling and get that spark back, you can make it work and you both just have to be willing to try.
2007-07-07 06:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never should have married him in the first place. He had a shady past going into this relationship. Trust is so very important in a marriage. If you don't have it then you don't really have a marriage. Get out now while it's still easy. His threats of killing himself is just a ploy to get you to stick around. He wants his cake and to eat it too. Don't be his pansy. GET OUT NOW.
2007-07-07 06:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we all make very bad decisions. If you are thinking that you should leave your husband, then you probably should. Things were bad when you married and you married for the wrong reasons, they will only continue to get worse. Live without regret. You deserve better than what he is offering you and you need to realize that. Life is too short to be stressed with someone who apparently doesn't care enough about you except when it comes to his green card.
2007-07-07 06:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way too much drama!!!!
Sounds to me like he is using you to stay in the country. Seems he finds another girl whenever the mood strikes him. Let him know how you feel. You should not have to tolerate him being with other women. I think you were foolish to marry him with the problems you were having....
2007-07-07 06:02:02 · answer #5 · answered by xfilekel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
First off, you need to work on your obsession with romance and marriage. It sounds like you REALLY jumped the gun on this one.
If he's cheating on you, it sounds like he doesn't even care about your marriage. Divorce him.
HOWEVER in the future, take more time to KNOW who he is and to "fall in love with his flaws".
2007-07-07 06:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is absolutely horrible! Why did you allow yourself to be in this situation? You need help. See a therapist. Get professional help. TRUST YOUR SELF. I will pray for you.
2007-07-07 06:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? You want to know what I think...you are an idiot. I am sorry but he lied, cheated and you still married him! Now you want someone to validate your desire to leave him? Stay where you are...you deserve eachother!
2007-07-07 06:06:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you seriously need to reconsider staying in this relationship*...
2007-07-07 09:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg go on jerry Springer! Ask him!
2007-07-07 06:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋