my girlfriend has anger management problems what should I do?

Answer 1

help yourself for being with her and then help her.

Answer 2

Its something very difficult to deal with. Bear in mind that you have to put up with a lot and you must be committed to go through this with her. It can be a tiring and painful journey...

She has to admit that she has a problem otherwise, you can't really do much.

First step is for her to admit that she has a problem. From there, get help as this is a medical issue. She needs counselling. With your love and support, she can change the way she view/accept each situation and manage her temperament.

Don't expect black to change completely to white - that will never happen. At best, you get grey. Know what I mean?

Answer 3

anger management?.....in my days we called it ' aggressive temper '....funny how we change all he words to minimize the meaning of things......Consider this: people with anger management problems need years of treatment and sometimes it is still unsuccessful depending on the commitment they put into it. If you're ready to live with that, with her little fit, the material damages and the emotional distress this will bring upon you..sure stand by her. Personally I would not. She may be a nice person but she will probably only get a grip on her problem in 10 years.

Answer 4

I believe I'd hold off on any marriage if you were thinking in that line. Cause you AIN'T seen nothing yet, she throws a tantrum and both of you will be in jail. My ex had a terrible, terrible temper his fuse was about a 1/4 inch long and took nothing set him off. I can honestly say he was way better looking than George Clooney, he was absolutely to good looking. But, that temper after I was married to him for about a year would go off at the least thing and he would throw fit and fist at the same time. Put me in the hospital twice, I never filed charges on him, because if I did he would beat me to death.
Thank the Lord for answering my prayers another woman wanted him and she ended up in the same shape I had been in, so think twice if your planning on a marriage, it's safer.

Answer 5

it's hard when someone you care about has an anger problem... depending on what she does with her anger, it can be scary too. my advice is to try your best to bring up the issue with her (when she's calm, not in middle of a fight) & tell her how it is affecting your relationship (i.e. you dont bring things up bc she'll get upset, or avoid things bc of her anger).

if the anger is physical, you've GOT TO STAY AWAY, don't allow it. i'm not necessarily telling you to break up with her, but you need to set limits. sometimes people get really mean when they are angry, could be physically or emotionally mean, you dont need to tolerate either. and if you do, you are giving her permission to treat you this way & things will not change.

talk to her, set limits, enforce your limits.
good luck.

Answer 6

Maybe she needs to seek the advice of a counselor to help her through it and for her to be able to talk about what gets her to these boiling points. Sometimes professional help is the best answer.

Answer 7

Tell her to see a therapist to work on her problem.

DO NOT get married or have kids during the time and a little bit after she is in therapy. You don't want kids to be in this situation.

Answer 8

Go to counseling. Although the simple mention of this will probably set her off, be careful. Suggest going with her.

Answer 9

She has anger managment problems? well why are you with her?

Answer 10

Make no plans for marriage or children until you both get some counseling.

Answer 11

If you love her enough try to help her through it but don't get married or have kids until she is better able to cope