I am only 16 and me and my boyfriend are ready to get married is this right??

Question

Me and my byfriend have been together for a year. We love each other more than anything. And I am ready to go further. My mom dont think its really going to happen. So should I follow my heart? Or am I too young?

Answer 1

Why do you have to get marriedd now? If you are right for eachother, you can wait until you're 22 or so and see if you still want to get married! Be patient.

Answer 2

Your way too young and you can only get married at the age with your parents permission and I don't think your mom would do that. Being married isn't easy and those who marry before they hit their 20's, are more likely to fail in the relationship. Besides, you need more than a year to make that decision. I think its best you both wait. Think about how some colleges don't accept married women and how getting a job isn't the easiest thing to get now. Plus, your still a child whether you like it or not and growing up too fast is never the best. Hold off the marriage for a long time and focus on yourself and have fun.

Answer 3

You're too young too get married. You may be a very mature 16 yr old but you aren't ready for marriage espically with a boy you have only been seeing a year. If you two really love each other then that love will only get stronger over the next couple of years. You'll both be more prepared for marriage if you wait a couple of years.

Answer 4

So you think you're ready to get married?

Where will you live? Most apartments won't rent to someone under 18 becuase they're not of legal age to sign the contract. Plus most apartments require your earnings to be twice that of the cost of the apartment, so they can make sure you can afford it. Some require 3x.

Do you own your car? Can you afford the payments plus the car insurance required to drive it?

Can you afford groceries? Do you know how to cook?

Can you afford electric, water, telephone and other bills?

Do you have a job? Do you make enough for all of this?

Does your boyfriend?

You want to know if you are ready to play house? Go to your local supermarket and pick up one of those "Apartment Guides" or "Green Sheets." Go through and find one you like. Find out how much it costs to live there. Call the utility companies (in the phone book) and ask them what the average monthly payments are for that area. Add it all up to what it would cost you to live for a month, then for a year.

Do you make enough? Because once married, your parents owe you nothing and are not responsible for you.

On an emotional level, when you fight with your boyfriend, is the first thing you think of "I'm breaking up with you?" or "Should I leave him?" Because if it is, you do not know what it means to stay long term in a relationship.

Marriage is a lifetime commitment. It's not a let's have some fun commitment.

Answer 5

I think your kind of young for that, marriage is a big responsibility, and before you marry him you should give it some tout. Once you get marry you can’t do all the things you are able to do now, or all the things you want to do. If he loves you he can wait for you, but if is getting marry what you really want then I can only wish you good luck. And I really hope you won’t regret getting married so soon like many people I know

Answer 6

Too young, so what happens if you're financially unstable? What will you do then? If you disregarded your mother's remark, she probably won't help you. Don't risk it. Who cares if you've been together for a year? I have a friend who has been together with her boyfriend since 8th grade until now. 3+ years and they're not going to get married and they love each other the same way you love your boyfriend.

You'll be emotionally hurt when you guys leave for college, and what happens if he finds another woman? What happens then?

Think about the consequences.

Answer 7

You are too young. If you really love each other then you can wait until you are older. Marriage is a huge step. I don't think you are old enough to really understand all the challenges you will face as a married teen. Just wait. You owe it to yourself to become an adult before you make such a big decision. If you get married now you will regret it forever.

Answer 8

if i will based on my experience being married, it's too early at ur age to get married! i was married when i was 20,were been 1year together as boyfriend and girlfriend.now i'm already 24 i thought it was the right time to get married but i'm wrong now i regret why i got married too early,and were going to file a devorce.you have 2 enjoy being single first then decide 2 to get married at the age of 25.think a million times before u make ur final decision

Answer 9

You probably don't want to hear this, but here it is. Wait until you graduate from college to get married, age 25 is about right. Married is a long time in harness and you can make your life just as miserable as you want to. The world really is a jungle and you need all the survival skills you can acquire, so acquire them or suffer the consequences.

Answer 10

your way to young to get married at 16 you think love is going to last forever and sometimes it does. There are many life changes ahead of you in the next few years If it true love the why be in such a hurry I say wait until your 21

Answer 11

This is really difficult! People mature late 20ths. You will continue to learn a lot about yourself in the next 10 years. I say, if you are so in love, keep dating, but don't get married yet. If he is truly the right person, he is not going anywhere. Best of luck!!!!