Sometimes I feel my friend is trying to take my boyfriend away from me...
2007-07-07 04:18:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dont tell him about it guys like that stuff even though he wont show it. Address your concerns to her and dont have her around so much it will force her to move on.
2007-07-07 04:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is what you do. Wait for a moment when you and your friend are alone. Then say something like: "I think it's great that you and Darren (?) are friends. I know that you would never even think about crossing the line with my boyfriend."
So, therefore, you would be sending her a little message in a semi-friendly way. Also, you may wait until you and him are alone, and you could say, in a controlled manner: "Please back off just a little bit. It looks like you're flirting with Julia (?)." Just be brief and to the point, and not overly emotional.
Don't forget, you may come back later and push a little harder if you don't get the results that you want. Finesse it, but be firm.
Lastly, try this exercise. I know you may not want to do this, but it will make you a hundred times stronger and more confident. Ever hear the line: "Alls fair in love and war" ...? Okay, it's not for nothing.
Do the following exercise occasionally. Everyone in a relationship should do this. In your mind, pretend that your boyfriend dumped you flat for someone else. You may feel uncomfortable with this thought, but do it anyway. Ask yourself: "what would I do?" ... "what would I say?" ... etc. Make friends with this uncomfortable situation. You know, get in touch with it.
99 times out of 100, this type of thinking would be "defeatest." However, believe me, this is the 1 exception.
Then realize that IF it ever happened, you would already be ready. I know, we don't want to think about it. However, make yourself stronger, and do it on occasion. IF it happened, and it's happened to the best of us, realize that you would not have to "save face." You would be just fine as far as YOU are concerned. Still strong and proud, but only suffering a small surface wound. You are not to allow them back again, but you may speak to them. Never allow them back though.
You'll be fine. Do the exercise. And hey, if he won't stop after three requests, then you dump him!
2007-07-07 04:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by Joe C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what he thinks of her? Does he find her attractive? Is he in love with you? Do you trust him?
Do you know what she thinks of him? Does she find him attractive? Is she a good friend? Why do you mistrust her?
You should only really worry if your boyfriend appears to want to follow her but in the meantime...
...keep your concerns to yourself and observe what goes on. During this time be an especially nice person to both of them.
In the end if they want to get together they will and there's little you can do about it. Try not to become too clingy with him as it will show up how insecure you feel. Try to be really nice to her as it will show how much of a female dog she is if she pinches him.
Basically, though you'll have to wait & see what happens.
2007-07-07 04:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by Who Yah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she can "steal" him away, then maybe he wasn't the one for you in the first place. If he is committed to you, then he won't be inflenced by oustide pressures.
I'd say better to find out now than later in the relationship or possibly after marriage when it would be much harder on you.
And, what kind of "friend" is she if she is trying to take him?
Might be time to change both friends; boy and girl.
g-day!
2007-07-07 04:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kekionga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say (why) you think your friend is trying to take away your boyfriend.
2007-07-07 04:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends were always trying to take my gf away. I think people do this because they are too lazy to go out and find their own gf or bf, so they wait till their friends find one and then try to flirt with them.
2007-07-07 04:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by PH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely in case you like one yet another very lots and you will't depart him and love every person else. then you somewhat ought to marry him interior the destiny while your discern says. you may tell your mothers and fathers later till you dont get caught, which you comprehend a guy, you like him,he's severe-high quality and all , yet dont tell approximately your sexual relationship and others. Your mothers and fathers might like him and marry with you. yet once you sense to blame , you purely choose him as a boyfriend no longer your husband then you somewhat ought to depart him now !!!
2016-10-01 02:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is. We all have a friend like that at one time or another. You've already seen signs already, no your not imagining these things. It's up to you to decide if you want to keep this friend around or not.
2007-07-07 04:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by Erica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have that feeling then you should listen to it. Sometimes people are not what you think they are, and you may feel bad for thinking that way, but you never know what is she capable of doing, if I was you I would be really careful and I wouldn’t let my bf get near her, listen to your gut
2007-07-07 04:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by totygoliguez1989 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you feel this way? if their are signs of this & your gut feelings are very strong then it is probably true & if she is she never was a friend in the 1st place
2007-07-07 04:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by susan s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋