My husband gets mad at me sometimes if I don't make him breakfast...what do I do?

Question

he knows how to make himself toast or oatmeal (what I would make for him anyway), but just doesn't want to. then he blames me for him having to go on with his day being hungry. this morning he got really mad and stormed out of the house angry without a goodbye or anything because I wouldn't get up and make him anything.

Answer 1

I would consider getting a new husband. Sounds like you hooked up with a Neanderthal. Perhaps you can remind him that this is the 21st century and if he doesn't like it, go build a time machine.

Answer 2

Ah.... this again. I think he expects for you to be up and at 'em, when he is. Do you work? If not that could be part of the underlying issue. Since you don't work, you should be up, damnit. I would talk to him and ask, why are you so mad, if I do not make you breakfast. It is probably something silly. Have you been doing it, and recently stopped? In that case he is use to it and may not have it figured into his schedule, so fears if he makes it, he might be late???
I have had my husband say to me when we are home on the weekend, "Only 2 meals? Most people eat three?" Like me making two wasn't good enough. Then I tell him, there is cereal, toast, whatever, go for it. Talk to him and find out why, he is really getting mad.

Answer 3

Well, if you don't work maybe you could fix his breakfast every other day. Some men expect their wife to do the cooking and cleaning. Do I agree with this? No. I believe both should help out around the house. Your husband should be happy. I make breakfast for myself and my kids only. I haven't made breakfast for my husband in a year. I'm not a morning person. But, I get down when it comes to dinner.


grneyes8621 great answer.

Answer 4

Is your husband demanding of other things as well in your relationship? Or is it just breakfast he's got a problem with? If he's like this with other things in your life then he's a control freak.....NOT GOOD.

However and this may not sit good with all of you out there but I could care less really its you that asked the question. Sooo, my question to you is do you work outside the home as well, or are do you have children and are a stay at home Mom.....Do you work is my question? Because if you don't then I'm figuring your husband is the only one working and he could be a tensy bit pissed off that he has to get up and go to work every day and you don't...and he may have this attitude because you won't even do something simple like get up with him and make him breakfast. Yeah, really he really could be feeling that way. So if that's the case and your not raising children or working outside of the home then yeah, I think you should do that for him.
BUT...If you are raising children or have a job outside of the home....or better yet doing both.....then you tell him to kiss your A*S, and if he can't understand that then he's got a problem...first, he needs to grow up and get real, and like I said earlier he could be a control freak....and that would really suck for you because you can't do enough for someone like that.
If you haven't been married for very long and this guy is a control freak just wait awhile.....this breakfast thing could just be a test to see if your going to do this for him or not....doing it is going to show him that you will put up with it, then they'll be something else...then something else, then something else, you get my point.
But...I also don't know either one of you personally. Have you told anyone else about this that know's the two of you really good, your personalities, how you act with each other, so on....those are the people you should ask this question to.....people who know you and him personally....they'll be able to see it for themselves....we can only answer what you write. Hope it all works out for you though. Guys can be such butt heads sometimes!

Answer 5

Ooooooo, the poor baby did a tantrum cause mommie wouldn't play his game. He was never in military service, was he? Unfortunately, in this day and age men are just a second baby and child for a hard working woman to raise. I take out the garbage, sweep, mop, run a load of laundry, etc; as I know how hard my wife works. I also can feed myself, and I clean up after I eat. Nobody appointed me god or anything. You might try hitting your husband along side the head with a 2 by 4 to get his attention and lay down some ground rules, you are not a servant or slave. One of my daughters had a first husband who tended to beat on her a little, she ruined a perfectly good toaster on his head and sweetly told him she had hit him gently and dealt with the problem herself. He kept his hands to himself after that, which shows that some of these young fellows can be taught.

Answer 6

Do you work outside the home? If not, then why can't you get up and cook breakfast then just go back to bed? A little kindness goes a long way in determining if your husband is going to have a good day or a bad day. If he leaves for work and he is upset what kind of day do you think he is going to have? Do you know how hard it is to work all day after argung with someone? It makes for a pretty sucky day.

Answer 7

diverse shifts can particular be problematic on a dating! So . . . is there any way one in each and every of you are able to exchange your paintings hours? If that's a rigidity (and it particular sounds like it) ask him if he'd be prepared to the two take a decrease in pay and discover an afternoon shift place (for the reason that there tend to be greater of those than the rest) or which you would be able to lose your job for the reason which you are able to no longer functionality. it truly is unfair of him. And, frankly, somebody being thoughtless like that makes it problematic to go with to be extreme-high quality to him. You do go with your sleep - it truly is not in basic terms his desires that count! loss of sleep is undesirable on your well being! usher in a counselor in case you are able to no longer paintings it out between the two one in each and every of you (If he won't bypass, bypass via your self.) better of success!

Answer 8

If he is working and you aren't then get up and make him breakfast.Make him a cheese omelet and toast, ask him waht he would like.He goes to work everyday, gets up and gets there on time a lot of time he doesn't "feel" like it.You can go back to bed, OR you can enjoy the quiet mornings, and see things you would normally miss.

Answer 9

Can we assume that this is something you did happily in the past? It's called bait and switch when you act happy doing something and after you get the ring you decide that's too much effort. If he was always giving you back rubs then stopped when you got married would you be mad?

Answer 10

tell him hes an equal to you and to make his own damn breakfast!!! then get your @$$ up out of bed and make your own breakfast as well and get ready to go to work yourself.EQUAL means EQUAL.


Now why is it you women are saying tell him to go back with his mother if he wants to be waited on hand and foot? Are wives supposed to be above mothers or something? You all sound so F#$%%G all about yourself.

Got curves said:
Well, if you don't work maybe you could fix his breakfast every other day. Some men expect their wife to do the cooking and cleaning. Do I agree with this? No. I believe both should help out around the house. Your husband should be happy. I make breakfast for myself and my kids only. I haven't made breakfast for my husband in a year. I'm not a morning person. But, I get down when it comes to dinner.

WTF is the difference if make the kids and your breakfast? why can't you include him in on the meal? You sound like a real ***** and if I were your husbnad you would be out the door.My god talk about a self centered ho.

Answer 11

He Lied To You When You And Him Took Your Vows Also He Lied To You When You Got Together And He Will Continue To Lie To You Forever And Happily Ever After Get Use To It That Is Why You Married Him For Better Or For Worse! Communication Works? Master Of All Able Paul!