Have you ever gotten the idea that your family thinks you're a loser?

Answer 1

Yes, but I think they make me ride in the trunk because they love me.

Answer 2

No, I don't get mocked by my friends or family. First, if I were to get teased by 'friends' because I write, they wouldn't be my friends for very long. Being friends with a writer (me, at least; not all writers are the same) means putting up with my weird, quirky habits (always has to have a pen and notebook on me, doesn't like writing in pencil, etc), and if they can't accept me for me, well....they're not good friends, are they? My family supports me, they don't tease me. I don't really like letting my parents read what I write, because I'm 15 and I've still got a lot to improve concerning my writing style, use of language, etc. I let a very select few people read my stories, and I refuse to accept the "Oh, it's wonderful" / "It's so amazing!" compliments, because although I know I am a pretty talented writer, I would like my work to be constructively criticised as well :) Also, I've been storytelling since I was old enough to talk... I've been making up stories and conveying the stories through pictures since I was old enough to pick up a crayon. And I've been actually *writing* ever since I could write properly. (Around 5 years of age, I suppose). Everyone who is anyone in my life knows this and respects it, and though may say something to me good-naturedly about my writing habits, they will never say or do anything extremely rude because I won't tolerate it.

Answer 3

In answer to your question, Yes. From age 16 through 24 especially. I had little or no money, and my parents didn't care for the girl I liked at all. While I did well in school and worked hard, nothing I did could change their opinion. Then I figured out what was going on with their attitudes and finally realized that my parents were not infallible.. I decided on how I wanted to run my own life then went and did it by still including my parents in my life (I love them very much), but not letting their negative opinion sway my actions.

I'd like to offer other insights that may or may not apply to your situation.

Family is one thing in life that you have no control over. You didn't get to pick them out and you are not completely responsible for what they think of you. As one gets older, you'll begin to truly realize the value of individuality - that you are your own person and responsible for your own life's successes and failures. Your family's opinion of you can be certainly hurtful if it's negative, but you shouldn't value yourself based on their judgment. Ask yourself, "Have I been doing my personal best at school/work?" "Have I tried to improve myself today?" "Do I have meaningful honest friendships?" "Do I treat others with respect and expect the same thing in return?" If your answers to any of these are "Yes" then you are no loser. You are trying to make a positive difference in our world and please consider yourself a personal success. We're all works in progress, and can do better, and your family's love should be accepting of your personality.

By the way, opinions change over time, as do the people who hold them. My parents and I now enjoy a much more positive relationship. I haven't gotten the idea that they think I'm a loser anymore, and they have warmly accepted my own family and friends.

Answer 4

I was for years! I made some lousy choices when I was young and I ended up being a young mom. Then I went on the welfare rolls, married two men who were absolute psychopaths, and of course, my life and the lives of my precious children were pretty messed up.

But then one day I met my Knight in Shining Armor. He encouraged me to go to college, married me and raised all five of my children as if they were his own, and our lives changed dramatically. I became a successful teacher and my children were able to lead normal lives.

It wasn't until I was forty that my family saw me as being okay (after I graduated from college and got my first teaching position). And you know, I didn't care so much about it then. I guess I figured I had always been a good person and maybe, just maybe, if they had given me love and encouragement during the tough years, instead of rejection and criticism, they may have had the opportunity to have known the real Annie. Who knows...life is a perennial mystery! Have a great weekend! Annie

Answer 5

I know that they think I'm weird. But that's just cause I'm not big on social conversation. I'm more of an observer instead of a talker. But if you met my family-you'd know why I don't really talk to them! One of my aunts talks----ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!!!! You can't get her to be quiet!!!!! Plus, she's my Spanish teacher at my school, and everybody hates her. Yes, I feel sorry for her though. My other aunt is a garage sale junkie. Everything she wears, gives as a gift, or uses as a decoration in her home-is from a garage sale! For Christmas, she gave my sister a broken, dusty, old lamp. It was a peacock though. A peacock/light. My sister, of course, didn't want it. So she gave it to me. And I took it to church for the "Worst Christmas Gift" thing that my youth group was having. Whoever got the worst gift for Christmas, would get to exchange it for something cooler. And guess what! I won!

Answer 6

Yes, especially when they call me a loser to my face.

Answer 7

if your not doing anything with your life then you are a loser

Answer 8

Oh yah, I have a big family and I'm the black sheep. It's pretty baa-ad.

Answer 9

Mia,

I didn't need to form my own idea -my family says it to me in plain English! LOL!

Answer 10

yes..but they are the losers