My wife is a perfectionist so I know every week I will get a load of criticism. I do everything to my very best ability, do all men get critisism when they clean ?
2007-07-07 03:38:38 · 33 answers · asked by jaguar69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You get clobbered for everything.
Yiou need to understand a terrible truism:
"She is right and you are wrong. Period."
2007-07-07 03:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your wife is very lucky. Not a lot of men will help around the house, in spite of nagging from the wife. In fact, a lot of wives think that when men help in household chores, they intentionally do a bad job and hope their wives can't stand it take over.
Do you hold an outside job? If you do, I think your wife should appreciate that you are doing any housework at all. If you are not working, then I suppose its alright to do the housework but it has to be your standards and not hers.
I do 100% of ALL household chores. I hold a home based job, I do all the cleaning, cooking, ironing, shopping and manage all administrative work in our home. My husband helped only when he is told to do so (that's when I am not home). I don't hold any grudge about having to do more at home as I have done so by choice. I am told that I am a perfectionist and I hate to see any unclean spot. So my only expectation from my husband is that he should take care not to mess up the house and put back things to where they belong.
My husband worked long hours and holds a stressful job. So when he comes home, I want him to come back to a clean and comfortable environment where he is free to relax without having to worry about chores he has to complete around the house. I feel this is one way to keep the marriage happy and lesser issues to argue over.
2007-07-07 05:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by Didi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you do all the cleaning. If you wife is such aperfectionist then it seems to me she would want to do the cleaning. If you just have more free time than she does maybe you should try and think more like a clean person and less like a man. comments like make her do it and find an esort service are what make woman hate men!!!
2007-07-07 04:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is a perfectionist i am surprised she doesn't do it herself. however you need to explain to her how you feel and if she wants to keep getting help to be a little more flexible.
not all men get criticism when they clean. weather male or female the job has to be done right if you put dishes that are still dirty in the cupboard then ya, your going to get criticized. so if you are doing your best and she still complains when she starts then just hear the peanuts teacher ( wa,wa wa)
2007-07-07 03:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by rayhab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit down and discuss your concerns with her. You can try hiring a cleaning service once a month and see if that works better in her eyes to do more deep cleaning or a thorough job.
She may not realize how critical she is being toward you and how it makes you feel.
2007-07-07 03:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife criticized the way I was doing some household chores 1 time. I said "Fine, I'm done!" and did not finish the chores I was doing. She has never criticized the way I have done things since then. She will give helpful suggestions, but not criticize.
2007-07-07 03:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men don't do ANY cleaning, so your wife should count herself one of the lucky ones! If I were you, I would stop cleaning. If she is a perfectionist, let her do it herself. Don't they say....the best way to get it done right is to do it yourself??
2007-07-07 03:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, tell her it bothers you and tell her to lay off and get up and help you. If she doesn't like the way you did it she can either do it herself and shut up or she can tell you kindly before you do the job the next time to try to do it her way. But no matter what she needs to be helping! You both live in the same house you both need to clean it! Sorry she is a nag!
2007-07-07 03:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you work a job?If you stay at home, make sure the house is clean to HER standards.If she keeps complaining, hand her the broom and tell her to SHOW you how you want it done, if that doesn't work hand her the broom and tell her it is HER responsibility from now on, and you go to work.If both of you work tell her you do things your way, if it isn't good enough she is welcome to do it over or learn to accept it.If you work and she doesn't, it is time to let her know she is going to start cleaning house, or your going shopping for a new wife.
2007-07-07 03:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
alright, man, first, you actually cleaned the house. Not every man does that, and you have to make sure she understands that. Its not everyday a wife has a husband who does house work. Tell her the clean the **** up if she thinks your doing a bad job at it. Become an avarage man for one week, and see how she likes it. Stay at home, drink beer, watch the game, and leave her do all the cleaning and cooking.
2007-07-07 03:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by omgwtfamidoing 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am the one in charge of cleaning the house so I know exactly how you feel when your significant other complains about it. What I did if my husband complaint about it is to give him a choice of either he clean the particular spot that he is complaining about himself, or give me the money to hire professionals to do it for us to his standard. It is important that you talk about this to your wife every time she complains. Communication is the key to this.
2007-07-07 03:56:32 · answer #11 · answered by Natalia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋