My ex-husband thinks that it would be in all of our (he, our 15 year old daughter, and I) to get back together.
I am not so sure of this because of the following reasons:
He will probably control who/ when I speak to (eg. my parents or other relatives).
He will control how I spend money.
He will have the final say in our daughter's life including her personal hygiene and clothes shopping.
He will want to know where my money is and make me invest it how he wants.
He does not want to legally marry me immediately.
We are legally divorced, but he still thinks for all of our sakes , we should get back together.
I live in another state, so it would mean moving everything, etc.
I would like to have my daughter come stay with me. He has sole physical and legal custody. He thinks she will not be okay with either he or me alone.
I am so confused because he says I only think of myself.
2007-07-07 03:36:16 · 11 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ample time was given to both of you to decide for the divorce. What take him that long to reconsider for the reunion and this time make your terms and conditions mutually acceptable, especially to you. Many men are using the children as the reason for the women to come back as they know women's weakness lied on the bondage between mother/child. Make your move carefully as you have just started a new chapter of your life.
2007-07-07 04:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by tan w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've pointed out all the reasons not to go back to him.
Why are you asking the question? You already know the answer.
If you're not happy in a marriage your child will know it and it will end up hurting the child not helping. Think about the situation that way. You won't be happy and then your daughter won't be happy.
Don't listen to him, stay away! But keep in good standings with him for the sake of your daughter.
2007-07-07 04:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Like being a DINK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to live like the coal miners daughter? Stay where you are, live your life, and for God's sake, try to get your daughter in your custody! He's manipulating and controlling both of you!
2007-07-07 03:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by snappygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are the two one among you questioning? If I knew that i could be off this communicate board and on Lake Como in Italy on the on line casino. Frankly, the a number of terrific situations i've got had are with ex's (girlfriends and one ex spouse) while all the trimmings of a failed courting are long previous. Who is conscious why he had to work out you or you him? it is something the two one among you may desire to artwork out. consistent with probability it truly is hormones or possibly just to have somebody each of you used to have faith. despite it truly is, do no longer attempt to over study it.
2016-10-19 02:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember WHY you two divorced! Going back to a meal that made you sick the first time would make as much sense as going back to the husband you divorced for obviously good reasons.
2007-07-07 04:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by dark_amaranth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got out from under a control freak - now he wants you back so he can, um ... control you again.
He'll use guilt and a dozen other negative tactics to try to get you to do what he wants - if you go back you really have no one to blame but yourself when he controls you and you are miserable again.
2007-07-07 07:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away. You are divorced for a reason. He sounds like a control freak who will make you miserable.
2007-07-07 03:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Cherrybomb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he says it's in "everyones best intrest" then it is? I don't think it sounds like it's in your best intrest, nor do I think that your daughter should grow up thinking that the man's word is absolute law in the household. It really only seems to be in his best intrest that you return and sadly he's using your daughter to manipulate you.
2007-07-07 05:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kristy s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and remember why you left in the first place, and that will stopy ou wanting to go back. It doesn't sound like a good situation to be in.
2007-07-07 04:10:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mama~peapod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the word CONTROL is way to present in all of this. you deserve someone who will take you as you are and trust you. we all deserve that.
2007-07-07 03:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by eb 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋