Do you find it disappointing to find out?

Question

that the man whom you have held up high turned out to be a man without guts? i mean.. you expected him to be stronger than you are.. an accomplished, smart, educated & blah blah... (or so i was told) and he didn't live up to it. It is a piss off!!

Good riddence. What about you?

just asking.

To add more details for clarity: I don't mean him failing on the material aspect but the treatment he gave being a woman. I expected more respect from an elderly but he sweeps you off his feet at the beginning & stupidly fall trap into it and then leaves you hanging on the cliff w/out him even saying goodbye. It would have been more appropriate & acceptable to have faced it squarely by saying that it’s not what he wants & therefore the dating is over. I have nothing against his living & lifestyle. It’s only by his being coward to admit what he feels and break it bluntly/ strongly to the woman he is with, not trying to guess what happened.

Answer 1

I've never met a human being who wasn't petty or small in some regard so I adjust my tolerance somewhat. That said I find once that person has crossed my tolerance threshold that I have a hard time remaining friends if I don't respect them. Character is big for me. I'm by no means perfect. I'm petty and small too (go down to the vegitarian section and you'll see what I mean)

Good riddence!

Good luck Peep

Answer 2

Why does the man have to be so much more than you why you guys can't be equal you may be letting a good one go.

After several bad relationships I meet a man who has no car and a okay job. He wants to take me out and I told my girl friend about the situation and she told me to give him a chance. Well we are doing great it's been almost two years and we are married 4 months, but I was upset when the truth came out because I thought he was broke and no he is far from it he has very old family money and did not own a car because he lives in a area in my city that parking is just as much as a lease on a condo and he had a job yeah the fanancial company my office uses his family owns it and he was there making sure things were running smoothly. So I come from a lower middle class but I almost let this guy go because he did not own a car not realizing he could just rent when needed.

I marrying him did not have anything to do with the money because a jerk is a jerk and I don't do jerks and in my line of work I would of met more men with money but I fell in love with his zest for life.

And think as you pass the next one by my husband just bought me my dream home for my birthday so we will be owning matching cars because we have a 5 car garage.

Answer 3

You really did not give us the whole story. Several things could be happening here. Were you disappointed because you had unrealistic expectations, so when you found out he was just a regular man with regular faults you were disappointed? Or are did you harshly judge him just for being a regular human being and maybe just making a normal mistake? Nobody is perfect. I don't know the full saying, but it's something like "don't judge others lest you be judged." Now if he held himself up to you as a perfect man, and you found out otherwise, then yes, I would understand the dissappointment. But if he didn't and it was you, then you could have been unfair.

Answer 4

Peepy
No ones perfect...if you really care about this person and have invested a lot of time and energy in this person...I would go that extra mile and work it out...I don't know all the details but based on what you have said...I'd try to work through some stuff....you have to care enough and look a little deeper...get to the root of his issues....it's ok to be pissed I've been there but when you reflect on your relationship over all weigh the good and the bad...communicate some stuff..have you even tried to talk it out...for you to be thismad it's obvious you really did care...let the hurt pass..and step back for a moment then...try to confront him again with some clearer thoughts...hope it works out..

Answer 5

In a way, it is rather disappointing to learn that it was all a facade, a camouflage of a man you expected to be real but isn't. Well, considering that no one is perfect, I have to make some adjustments in my expectations and give room for some flaws in my man's make-up. It worked for a while but, what is natural will always surface at any moment and that was what happened. I gave up. I wasn't born to make a sacrificial lamb of myself. I wasn't raised and loved by parents to suffer at the hands of an uncaring man.

Answer 6

disillusioned by using the lack of tolerance shown by using some human beings on Y.A. How some human beings, who attempt to make you look stupid on account which you have asked a query they don't understand, and once you ingredient out their shortcomings, they run and checklist you. Lame, very lame.

Answer 7

YES! I always expecting too much with somebody!Now I dont categorized anyone, just let it be!And I have no qualifications required to a person just a respect from him!

Answer 8

Boy, been there done that!
It's time to put the past in the past and move forward and upward! On to much better things! Good luck and best wishes!

Answer 9

Yes..i agree....good riddence.......but it still hurts....my tears have never compromised my strenght ..they never will....I thought he was a man of honor....would marry me ...our daughter is now 8....so we could be a family....now i'm a single mom with a great daughter....but she doesn't have her dad....he made us alot of promises.....he never kept one.... but he promised to break our hearts......and he did.....yes...good riddence!....i hope he had the time of his life

Answer 10

Hmm, maybe not so much a question as a comment. I think most people would be seriously pissed to experience that. It hurts, makes you mad, you can't fix it, etc.