Why do we tell other people stuff they can't possibly help with?

Question

Do words make it better? Or just the fact that someone else knows?

Answer 1

I have no words of wisdom (as you know lol) but we both know...you can talk to me anytime...its called sharing - and I often share with you too! So stop guilting up

Answer 2

It depends to every person but some just keep it to themselves but some does not. For those who tell it is there coping mechanism the reason isn't-if it would make you feel better. Somehow it also deals with maturity of the person of being aware of what will happen if he or she would say to someone of what she or he has done wrong. And that person should be aware if the other person is to be trusted, not just to say things that make you feel guilty about yourself for somehow that untrusted person would also discriminate you and would lead you more to low-esteem. Each person makes diferent choices everyday of their lives and somehow it would end up being negative or positive. You somehow deal with the coping mechanism whether you feel guilty or not. Adjust to the choices you have made and make new percepcions about living. We deal with this stuffs because of our emotions and somehow time would just pass by and then it would be normal for you to hide those stuffs. For what important is that YOU are still LIVING. HOpe is there and remember that The most radical things in life is not about what we are doing right now it is of who we are becoming.

Answer 3

By vocalising our thoughts, we crystalise our thinking and hence highlight was is actually the issue bothering us. Each time we do this, we can compare others' reactions to what we thought originally and modify anything that doesn't feel as if it fits anymore.
The simplest form of this process, called cognitive dissonance, is seen when you have a contradictoion between beliefs or attitudes and your behaviour that cannot be reconciled with each other. Once you are aware of the contradiction, you will shift your belief/attitude towards the behaviour or modify the behaviour so that it fits better with your beliefs.
For example, think of smokers who know that smoking is damaging their health. They will either reduce and give up their smoking to preserve their health or come up with all sorts of beliefs (excuses) such as "I really enjoy smoking", "well everyone is going to die someday", "my granma smoked seventy a day and didn't die until she was really old", or the classic "nowadays scientist say everything is bad for you".

Hope that helps

Answer 4

When I ask a question, I like to hear the different points of views. I have recieved answers that took me in directions I never even thought of. And then I have heard the obvious, and then I find some think the same way I was...It helps me sort my thinking out and consider other options, or realize that it wasnt as bad as I thought.

Answer 5

Sometimes just by telling someone or writing it down can help to clarify the problem.

Answer 6

i say what i say to help! if i said sth just because i knew it that would make me a know-it-all person and i hate those ppl. and no, words make it worse sometimes. but it's a risk you must take. when you say things to someone to help him, you're actually hoping that HE will listen and follow, not that you know what you're talking about.

Answer 7

Sometimes that person might have words of wisdom that completely turn a bad situation around - sometimes completely inadvertently. We tell them because they MIGHT be able to help us.

Answer 8

It is said that sharing a burden makes it lighter. I don't expect help; I want empathy and understanding.

Answer 9

the more times you tell the story the better you feel, because you are sharing it and you will no longer be the only one carrying the load of emotion......

Answer 10

Sometimes we can get good advice on here. It's whether we recognise it as good advice that's the issue