My parents are Middle Eastern. I am 14 years old and they told me today that they found someone to have an arranged marrage with me. I never knew till today that their marrage was arranged to. How should I tell them I dont want an arranged marriage?
2007-07-07 01:05:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My parents are Middle Eastern. I am 14 years old and they told me today that they found someone to have an arranged marrage with me. I never knew till today that their marrage was arranged to. How should I tell them I dont want an arranged marriage? Not to marry now but in 10-12 years. I am not sure what to do.
2007-07-07 01:20:44 · update #1
Your only 14 and their talking about marriage for you already!! You should tell them that your not even close to being ready for marriage until your finished College or University, which should be in about another 10-12 years. That way when they ask again you will be older and will have had plenty of time to give them the reasons why you don't want an arranged marriage.
2007-07-07 01:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called an arranged marriage when the parents choose the spouse because the "arrange" for it to happen. Love or attraction doesn't necessarily come into the picture. When an adult child chooses to marry someone it is more often because they love someone....that's why it is called a love marriage.
2016-05-20 05:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your mouth and say the words "I don't want an arranged marriage". Sorry, am in a bitchy mood so forgive my bluntness. Nevertheless, just tell them that, tell them how you feel about this arranged marriage business and that you do not want it...not because of teenage insurgency, of course. Good luck with that and I hope that your parents will understand.
Will be praying for you
2007-07-07 01:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Enmari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, hold on there tiger! First you need to see what is in store for you! Most guys want to choose their own spouse and steer away from tradition, then after zillions of failures they go running back to Mommy and Daddy to set them up again. Trouble is, this time they have to settle for something not too hot. Now it's true that we can locate our own love if you know how and know what to look for, but, most truly don't. Understand that you may not be a hot commodity right now. What I am saying is at least take a look. Send e-mails, get photo's. You may be the ugly one in this setup!
2007-07-07 01:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are way too young to be thinking about marriage. When the time comes, you will decide. Keep an open mind. Your parents may have picked a good mate. Get to know her before saying no.
2007-07-07 01:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by regerugged 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one has the right to force you to marry someone that you don't want, explain to your parents that you are still young and would like to choose who you marry when you are ready for it you could also suggest that if you feel when your older and ready to marry that they could introduce you to a person to get to know better this way your parents don't feel rejected in their beliefs. hopefully you have a teacher or adult that you can talk to, but you do need to talk to a responsible adult as arranged marriages are a mine field waiting to happen, please talk to some one as they might be able to talk to your parents for you and explain how you feel but in this day and age you don't have to be forced into an arranged marriage, there are people out there who can help you and you need to seek advice straight away . you may be young be you still have rights as a person please don't let its lie if your parents insist on an arranged marriage go see a teacher they will help
2007-07-07 01:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by fruitcake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in the USA?If yes tell them you love them very much but you will have to report them to social aervices for contributing to the delinquency of a minor if they force you into it. Better still go to the nearest police station and tell them what you told us.YOu have 4 more years to be a child enjoy it.
2007-07-07 01:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no two ways about what you will do cos you have to stand on your choice as long as you love the person. try to explain things to them so thry can understand that it is all about your happiness and not just getting married.marriy the one you love cos that is the greatest happiness one can acquire in life. dont give in to their consent cos it's you who is going to marry the person.
2007-07-07 01:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by cherish s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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age 14 is too early for thinking about marriage,
you can just tell to wait for atlest another 6 years,
before they go ahead with,
thats all.
2007-07-07 01:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by Karsan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats bad..convinced ur mum and dad that u dont want to be married in that young age... its not right ... u must be marry one the person u love.... convined and convinced u can do it..but if u want to follow ur parents then follow...
2007-07-07 01:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by earleen l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋