please help
my wife said her ex husband who she has 2 kids with is coming over for the summer and he is going to stay with us because she wana spend time with her kids i just dont think its going to be a good idea having him around in my house please help what should i do i mean her kids are welcomed but i dont know about the ex lol
2007-07-07 00:28:50 · 18 answers · asked by francois a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not sure that is a really good idea. I think he should stay some place else.
2007-07-07 00:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by green_clovers66 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she's asking too much of you to have her ex come and stay with you over the summer. Even a weekend would be pushing it in my opinion. He should stay at a hotel if he wants to see the kids more, he can visit with them still. I just think it's a terrible idea and would be very uncomfortable to everyone involved. I would say no way.
2007-07-07 07:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend used to be married. His ex is coming down here the end of the year so he can finally see his daughter. She will not be staying here with us, as it will cause drama, but he is paying 1/2 for her to stay in a hotel. Staying in the home, is not advised.
If your wife wants to see the kids, I advise her to meet up with the kids someplace other than the home and plan events to do.
The kids, I dont know the ages as you didnt state, are not gonna welcome you easily into their lives. Sorry to say. They need to spend time with their mother without having to worry about seeing a strange man clinging to their mother, trying to prove to the ex that he is there to stay in her life.
2007-07-07 07:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Mami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you have no problem with the children staying BUT the ex husband needs to find a place of his own.
She is definatly disrepecting you inviting an ex husband to live in your home. If the situation was turned around and YOUR ex wife wanted to stay with you, I am VERY sure your wife would be pissed!
2007-07-07 07:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to put him up in a hotel for that time and the kids can stay with you and your wife. I am in the sam boat with my wife he ex will come over to get the kids and he is welcome but i't is my house and he would not be welcome to stay the night. Tell your wife that you don't feel right having him stay the night in your home good luck
2007-07-07 07:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Chastain T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry about this. Start the situation like the ex husband would be your old friend from the school. If the atmosphere becomes what you do not like too much, you may stay far from your house during his visit. In your place I would arrange a getaway program, or accomodation for myself. Of course only for emergency situation.
2007-07-07 09:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT RIGHT of your Wife to think it is all right for her EX. to in for the Summer. He can very well rent a Hotel room or a friends/family's Home. If she persists in this Lunacy. Tell her," If he moves IN I'm moving OUT!"
Watch her reaction carefully. Make an observation of how much thought is put into her answer. Perhaps she wants you to leave?
2007-07-07 08:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by jamesrichmond28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT the HELL? Your wife seems to have a hole in her head.How did she lose the kids anyway?Who cares.If you have any ba**s you wouldn't be here asking us for help you would have a wrecking ball to that place.How come she calls the shots.OH I see,you live with her EH?If you have power or any utilities in your name shut it off and walk out ,don't look back.If you let her get away with such a s-t-u-p-i-d request she will ride you the rest of the way.
Are married couples not supposed to make decisions together?So what happens when you go to work?He will be wrestling in your bed.No amount of love should make a wife or husband permit this foolishness
2007-07-07 07:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to her and say that you feel a bit uncomfortable having him around---but he is her 'ex' so he must have done something wrong....they prob won't get back together or anything!!!....she could make arrangements for him to stay somewhere else while the kids stay with you....this could be a perfect oppurtunity to show how much greater you are than him...and if that means letting him stay she will appreciate that you have made that sacrifice for her...he will probably feel just as uncomfortable than you because your there!!!!! :) good luck!
2007-07-07 07:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by flipin_mentalzar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if the situation was in reverse how would she feel about it. There's nothing wrong with him visiting his kids, but it's a visit, not a vacation. He needs to stay somewhere else! It's not fair to you to make you feel that uncomfortable in your own home. I just hope if you decide to not let him stay you don't end up being the bad guy in the situation. Good luck and stand your ground!!!!!
2007-07-07 07:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with her and tell her that the kids are most wellcome but the ex is not going to stay or sleep under the same roof surely theres a close family member either her side or yours he can stay with ?then he can call around to see the kids
2007-07-07 08:09:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋