i dont think its nessasry to divorce a person as long as they didnt commit adultry. cause i believe that u mary for all the right reasons, and your only devoted to that one person. and u become one. i think its funny how in hollywood they dont stay togeather more then 48 hours, that tells me they dont have time for each other, well if you knew that why get togeather at all? its a fad. and its funny how they dont get togeather with plane janes or average joes, but skip to other celebs, because they want to be noticed more. any way i believe that divorce aint nessecsary if u love the person. so why do people do it? cause every one knows if u have kids they r in the middle of it all and it affects them and thats who i feel sorry for the most.
2007-07-06 23:50:21 · 11 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kids do wind up to be the most hurt in a divorce but don't you think it could hurt them more if their parents aren't getting along? A divorce may hurt them but watching and listening to two parents cuss, argue, fight, physically fight might scar them worse. There are a lot of kids that live happy and healthy lives with their parents split. Without all the drama between their parents, the parents can then concentrate on their kids. Don't get me wrong, I am not in favor of divorce, but when parents try to stay together for the sake of the kids and it doesn't work, this situation can be worse for them. Happy parents usually produce happy kids!!!!!
2007-07-07 00:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All people's lives are not based on the lives of *some* in "Hollywood" and do you often view children as being married to their parents? Have children always been "victims" in your eyes for various reasons? It is people like you that give children excuses and permission to defy their parents according to their parent's marital status. Are you familiar with wrath? Are you familiar with the word "entrenched" and "dysfunctional"? If you want to do something positive for children that is one thing but bashing parents publicly for being remarried or divorced does nothing but create depression and confusion in children and also sends a verbal signal that they have excuses to defy parental authority due to "their parent's divorce" - that is manipulative, intrusive, and wrong. Here is why: A child's role in the family does not change due to their parent's marital status. They have a mother and father period and the only relationship between a parent and son/daughter is based on those roles.
You also have a very limited personal view on why people divorce which you couldn't truthfully even make a call on including concerning ALL married couples in the entertainment business.
Marriage (two becoming one) is between a couple and if divorce occurs it also is a decision that is made and known only to a couple in many cases. Those that dare say could be getting into verbal assumption( spreading lies) and speculating...sowing discord.
I believe divorce is a cop-out unless adultery (which includes abuse) is present. The flavor-of-the month club is a whole other subject - possibly lacking in the meaning of marriage all together I don't know for sure. What I do know is that any man that beats, emotionally mistreats/misrepresents his wife's charactor to the public(she's crazy>code for I'm an abuser or up to no good in my home), rapes or withholds sex from his wife and calls that husbandry is living dishonestly and having an affair with himself. He's also modeling the same to his children and possibly others in the family so taring his family down. Did it ever occur to you that abusers spend every single day projecting on their spouse? Did it ever occur to you that any spouse that makes choices to behave in this manner and refuses to stop should not be married until they decide to behave like an adult legally - divorce sometimes speaks to people so how do you know what you are preaching fits every foot? Are you aware that abusers sometimes file for divorce when they know their spouse has had enough of them and can see the end coming - for image and because their worst nightmare is exposure of truth? So, to cover they file believing that it will mask their failure/abuse to family and friends. They believe it will make them appear victimized because they only care about their image outside their home. He who puts his spouse up against a brick wall where nothing she does will change the situation - puts himself up against a brick wall also. Did you know that abusers sometimes use those papers assuming it will "get their spouse under control"?
I also can think of three life testimonies in the entertainment business right off the bat who would tell you your statement is lacking reality and education.
~~~~Assumption is a waste of time.
2007-07-10 19:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many couples in Hollywood meet on a movie set and fall in love with the chemistry they have on set and with the characters they are playing. The fall in love in make-believe land and then when the shoot is over and reality sets in they see they have made a mistake, and poof, it's over!
In real life it's just lust they feel or pressure or obligation or they don't want to hurt someone so they go ahead with the wedding, try to work it out, have a few kids, and then decide they can't go on this way. It's too bad. Marriage is a lot, I said a lot, of work. Married 32 years to my first husband and still working but it's wonderful.
2007-07-07 00:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate it when people ask a question, only to pontificate their own answer.
As Cassie T so wisely pointed out, divorce isn't devastating for all children.
Unless you have walked a mile in the shoes of the person filing for divorce, you are NOT an expert on the subject.
2007-07-07 01:45:39 · answer #4 · answered by Beach Saint 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well how about if they don't want to work and when they do they just go and smoke crack with the money they make? take off for days at a time and leave a wife and small child with no money or car or food? then the wife can't even go to work because there is no babysitter and she doesn't make enough to pay for daycare? and no family nearby. how is that for a good reason to get divorced? that's a really shitty situation.
2007-07-07 00:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Arraya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so naive!
People get divorced for a lot of reasons not just adultery. How about addictions, you married the wrong person, money etc?
You have no idea what it feels like to be tied to a person that makes you miserable and unloved.
Divorce is necessary. Without it - more people would just be running away or killing themselves or cheating.
2007-07-06 23:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, divorce messes up kids, and I feel sorry for the kids, but adults develop problems with each other which cannot be resolved, so moving on is their only option. I think the divorce figures are scary, but it seems that people can't get on with each other.
2007-07-07 00:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents divorced when I was 12 (which is a bad age to start with). And you know what?
Best thing that ever happened to me.
They REALLY should not have been together. And yeah, it was rough. But in the end everyone was better off.
Don't try to tell other people what to do when you have no idea what their situation is.
2007-07-06 23:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they think that it's not their destiny.
They are not happy and satisfied with each other and the best way is to have a divorce.
They can't live their commitment when they say I do and I love u thru thick and thin... That's it!
2007-07-07 00:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by Dawnz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not that easy. People bring past problems into the relationship that both can't handle. Some people just grow appart, and they might as well try to salvage what they have left of their life. life is too short to live it with someone ur not happy with.
2007-07-07 01:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋