Do you fear to make friends on the internet in case you make a big mistake?

Question

oooo Paul I don't think I would ever consider meeting people off the internet. Unless I had known them a long long time and felt very confident they were a real friend. I just mean mail friends lol ewwwwww I wouldn't meet em. Perhaps that puts a lid on not being able to make internet friends then lol

Tatty lashes I am so sorry you had such a bad time. This must have been utterly awful for you. It's strange how easy it is for people to put on a false face on the internet though.

Please don't stop being lovely to people though just because of this person. You were lovely to invite her in and look after her. And that says far more about you than her. She was a nasty moo.

Lefty YES i do count you as a friend. But you aint the same as everyone else. Pilly turned out to be a man lol

Answer 1

ok heres a prime example...someone i have known for years on the internet came here 2 weeks ago for a stay, i have seen her on cam, i have talked on the phone and i have kept intouch for 3 years, so i thought ok i know this lady well enough to invite her to my home, she's coming here so it's not all bad, how wrong was i...all the time she was here, i was the one spending money i was the one cooking and cleaning after her, she not once offered to help, i know she was my guest but a little bit of help would have been nice, while she was here she never once had a wash, she was arguing with her man and acting like a total b!tch all the time she was here, i got into debt for £300 and i am still paying it back, she had like £200 in her purse and not once offered to contribute taxi fares or drinks or meals etc even though i did tell her that i was low on cash, she just gave me that blank look, and when she finally left, i didn't so much as get a thanks...it was a complete nightmare, she invaded my home, she was on my computer day and night, i gave my bed up for her and i took the couch, she was ranting and raving at her partner slamming my doors throwing things abiut the place...so 4 days before she left, i kicked her out, told her to go back to where she came from, i didn't care about how late it was and i didn't care about how she got home, i had had enough, she totally disrespected me nd my family.... next day i saw her on cam and she was bragging that she'd spent a fortune on clothes and digital cameras etc, so i went ape....i finally told her that she would never be welcome in my home again and that she was just a freeloading lazy dirty b!tch, i never once heard the shower or the bath being run and she stunk my bedroom out, she even bloodied my bed and didn't tell me....so if i were you, i would think about meeting people off the internet...ok i had a bad experience but you never know who people really are till you meet them...i will never ever do it again....

Answer 2

Hmm - okay here goes, you know full well i have met people off the net and am a genuine friend to those I have not met too. Until someone hurts me or disrepects my trust I give all a fair go. That makes me very vunerable to people who will use and abuse (so sorry to hear of tatty's story) but until then...well life is too short, I hope that person will realise what she has done..but I dont think so.

But I am with that person who said that children under 18 are a different kettle of swimming things, but then again I worry that parents let children come into chat rooms at the best of times! The one Mrsb and I used to go into had lots of erm 'characters' that I certainly wouldnt let ME at 39 go near never mind kids of 14/15 which used to come in for help with homework!

But little question to mrsb...I truly count you as a friend in my life, and you do care bout me, I know that whatever you say :0P..but do you count me as a friend you have never met??? or just someone with words and your sense of humour?

Go on....tell leftylegs :)

Answer 3

Depends on your age? and size . A child or a woman should take more precautions than a 6ft muscle bound man.
Balance of common sence and wisdom, Dont meet with a person who you have a strange feeling about.
Or anyone you havent verified. and tell someone else while meeting the first time, take a friend. these fall on a bit of street smarts. A child should Never under any way, meet up
with anyone. A teen should bring an adult and caution should be used. If you have to ask this question that means you are having second thoughts and that is your gut feeling telling you ( NO ) Listen to it, and you will be safer

Answer 4

No I don't, you first perceive what you want and what you are looking for in friendship, you follow through on your hunches and see where it leads, you may get burnt a few times but you will also succeed many times over. I believe this to be true because I have a terrific friend in Uganda, we have got to know each other, our likes and dislikes, what we hope to achieve and the different cultural backgrounds, our friendly relationship has grown in stature and is growing stronger every day, and it is a fantastic feeling, knowing that we are there for each other even though we are separated by distance, using the Internet brings us so much closer.

Answer 5

making friends in Internet is just like making friends outside the Internet. doesn't mean friends you make in office or pub are all "good" guys. there are nice and decent people in the net too like me and you :))

mistake is only made when you want something in return. and also depend on your conversations and what are you looking for. some Internet friends can turned out to be "wolf" in sheep skin. you should have be careful in the first place before meeting anyone from the Internet.

but i should say 98% of guy you talk to in the internet who are sweet talker or over "concern" about your problems then you have to be extra careful. they are trying to charm you with their loving and tender care.

Answer 6

No its the other way around I fear making friends in this new part of the city I moved to because allot of the people here my age drink piss and smoke pot and take harder drugs. I wish I could find some friends that were straight.

Answer 7

I think the benefit is worth the risk. I have made some casual friends on Y!A, and it has been interesting and worthwhile. I personally think you need to be cautious, but it still a journey that has potential.

Answer 8

No. I lie most of the time when i play online games but i really dont care if people find out my name or otehr stuff in chat rooms and on this site.

Answer 9

I never make friends on the Internet. Its too risky.

Answer 10

You're that silly woman! Why so serious today, Mrs B?