i been married for about 5 years im only 22 and have a 10 month old baby my marrige is realy bad we are happy for about 3 days an then comes the fights but i mean realy bad fights. all my 5 years off marrige my husband hasnt put me in an apartment we never realy live together his excuse is that he has been realy stupid before but hes changed. he always loses his jobs not no more but hes only been in it for about 6 months hes 25. like i said were always fighthing i realy love him my parents say im stupid to be in love with a low life i dont know what to do does he love me? and is there hope for my marrige or should i move on even if it hurts ? would it be best to divorce him if were always fighthing all our 5 years of marrige? will he ever change or if he hasnt change for five years hes not going to? is my love twords him blindind me? please help
2007-07-06 21:19:23 · 8 answers · asked by RUBYELISA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
think, can you or your baby live this way 10 years on ?
2007-07-06 21:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you from experience, he won't change, not ever. If he was gonna change he would have done it before now. I was married for 7 years to a guy like that, he would work and then either quit or get fired within a few months, the longest he worked while we were married was 18 months, but it was only part time and he only made about $500 every two weeks. If you haven't lived with him, then it shouldn't be hard to divorce him. It will be hard, but since your parents sound like they will help you, you should file for divorce and move on, it is not healthy for you or your baby to live like that and fighting all the time is not a good thing for your baby to grow up with. If he is 25 and hasn't gotten a steady job by now, he probably won't. Yes, your love is blinding you, open your eyes sweetie and get a divorce.
2007-07-07 04:31:56 · answer #2 · answered by hargonagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the best thing to do is to talk to him one final time asking him if he is willing to change and if he says yes, then give him a time limit to show that he has changed. If he says and feels that he is fine the way he is .... u need to move on in life. You also have a child for whom you need to think and ensure a good life and good future. Start looking at job opportunities and take up some good job so you are by yourself. That will also make your husband realize that you are capable of managing your and your baby's life and if he really cares and loves you, he will try and make things fine between the 2 of you. At times, men do not value and respect their wives until she does not value and respect herself. Please do not waste your life anymore. Try and stand up for yourself and talk to your husband and i am sure if he loves you he will see your point and change .... atleast try to work towards that... and if not then you need to move on in life and do it real fast. You have already given 5 years of your life to this relationship and if htings dont improve for you soon, there is no point in wasting any more time on this. I know this will hurt a lot but its best for you and your baby.... so just do it. All the best.
2007-07-07 04:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First up, you need to get a job if you don't have one yet. Then start from there. You can't just walk out of a marriage just because things are rough.
Try to examine the situation. Are you just really so in love with this guy that you do not really care whether you are happy or not?
Secure yourself and your child's future first. Your husband will only demean you if you can't prove that you can show him that you can stand on your own.
2007-07-07 04:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by attyjudz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you don't have a marriage, you have a fight card.
Get rid of this loser. Don't worry about whether or not he loves you--I can't tell from what you've written if he loves anyone or anything. The only hope for your marriage is if he is willing to change and I don't see anything from what you've written to suggest he does.
There are probably a couple of billion better guys out there. If he can't at least try he isn't worth your time. Listen to your parents. Obviously, they DO love you.
2007-07-07 04:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does Dr. Phil say?
"The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior."
That means he will not change.
Dr.Phil would tell you to leave that loser.
I agree.
2007-07-07 04:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes---move on for your sake and your child's.
2007-07-07 04:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by say what? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why r u wasting ur life with this loserrr..............?????????????
2007-07-07 04:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋