no one wants me?

Question

In hs, I was somewhat geeky, I wore glasses and I didn't use makeup. The only thing i took pride in was that I dressed in style and I wasn't fat. Now i'm in college and i've gained a lil bit of weight 5ft2 147lbs and i still don't put makeup on. If i caouldn't get a guy when i was skinny how am i going to get a guy now. Also, why is that guys only want me when i dress sexy?

Answer 1

If you want a just a guy there are plenty who will ahem anything that moves.

Get real grow up and if you think you are getting chubby, exercise. This will clear your mind as well as your soul.

You will find a guy who doesn't just want your sexy dress (neither what's underneath it). Of course being sexy is not bad either, but sexy could mean many things. Personally I would prefer a girl that dresses nice (and sexy), has great sense of humor, shares interests with me and is womenly, to someone that's "hot" but is a total b*tch and stupid at the same time, but that just me....

Oh, and those "real guys" saying "that's how we guys are", speak for yourself. If you think you are cool and this is what you should say, give those suggestions (like dropping bras) to your sister. Or here is another stereotype for you:

You in 10 years, working on a dump, living in a rundown trailer with 1978 Ford truck and your hottie who's now a fat momma screaming at you when you return drunk and throw your dirty socks on the table.

Answer 2

You know it is not always what you think,it not what you are on the outside its what's on the inside, your self esteem is at a low, don't through your self a pity party because no one wants that , you are trying to hard the way i use to be i needed some one to want me so i could be happy,you must reverse yourself if you cannot love yourself how can you love someone else, or how can they love you if you don't love your self. you cant base your on some one loving you with sex it will never happen, don't jump to conclusions , most men AND WOMENdon't reach there point of looks until ther 30 or 40 ,you are to hard on yourself ,you want things now, it doesn't work that way so you think of yourself as a geeky that's another negative thought ,people that are geeky turn into swans i would say over 50% OF PEOPLE go for the content of your character, iam moved by a persons content and personality think positive, have humer be your self you wont have a problem ,your in college read some books on self esteem and positive think, i only went to the ninth grade you have so much going on for you you should be proud of yourself i envy you for your are accomplisments


HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH SHOULDERS BACK

YOU ARE GOING TO BE JUST GREAT
A BROTHER FROM ANOTHER MOTHER

Answer 3

Your in college now girl so there are a lot of different types of guys out there, believe me. True, some guys are superficial but there are others that are smart, and kind and like women on the inside. I bet your a pretty girl don't let anything or anyone say that you aren't and you don't have to put on makeup if you want to. Hold on and wait and the right guy will come along, and don't settle for anyone, k! hope that helps.

Answer 4

Maybe you're more confident when you dress sexy. Just based on what you've written here you don't seen very confident. Okay seriously, I'm really not trying to be mean to you, but you seem very shallow. I mean, you didn't mention anything about who you are as a person. I suggest confidence and depth, those two traits will make you far more attractive no matter what you look like.
Good luck!

Answer 5

Sexy can be alot of different things. Some men like the Bimbo look while others see confidence as sexy. If make-up isn"t your thing then find what is.Just be yourself and never lower your standards and your Mr. Right will come along. And remember there are still plenty of nice guys out there, they just need to find you.

Answer 6

Sadly you are at an age and in an environment where looks are everything and nobody knows the value of anything (they just like to think they do)
from 14 -74 guys are only interested in one thing. Make up is fine and dandy but nothing beats clear eyes and beautiful skin.

Don't worry about it, get your head down, make the most of your educational opportunites and give yourself every chance in the world to get ahead.

You'll find that the rest will follow.

Good luck

Answer 7

Be patient. There will come a guy that likes you for who you are and you and him will fit perfectly. Dont change who you are just to get a guy. Im sure your a beautiful girl and that perfect man will come along. "The One" will come at the right time for you and the right time for him. Dont rush looking for that person cause it wont be in the right timing.

Just know that hes out there. Your soulmate is out there somewhere. One thing my mom did with me when i was little was that when we said our prayers we said a prayer for my future husband and that he would be healthy and safe ect... It made me feel good when I felt no guys liked me because I still new he was out there somewhere and that one day God would have us meet and even though I felt lonely then I'd have someone that would love me more then I could imagine someday.

And I was right. I met that person at the right time.
Your time will come so keep your head up girl!!

Answer 8

dont be fooled by people who tell you looks dont matter. they do, its just that personality matters more, and in the long run. your looks are what will hook a potential mate. i mean lets face it, do you look at guys who are slobs and dont clean themselves up? no you look at the hot ones first, despite the fact that you could live with someones shortcomings if they had a great personality.
dress nicely, you dont have to dress sexy, but take pride in the way you look and smell. once you initially make a good impression, you can let your personality take over.
when you train a dog, you give it a treat, so youve got to give the men a treat, then once hes trained, he will know his tricks without needing a treat
LOL
sorry guys, i feel like a traitor to my sex

Answer 9

dont put yourself down you just need to make yourself avalible
meet some new guys
flirt get some numbers
thiers so many people out there you will find someone

now the reason for them wantin you when you dress sexy if probaly because you look good and are atracted to you
thats a time maybe to get some numbers and get to know some new people

Answer 10

I assure you that some one wants you. It's just that in high school and college, guys are trying to hang out with cool girls that might let them have sex with them. I don't like to stereotype people, but sexual girls usually show it with they way they act, dress and fix themselves. Guys catch on to small cues like this in their constant, neverending journey to finding a sexual partner.
No matter what height or weight you're at you can maximize and highlight the beautiful parts of you. It makes you look confident when you dress nice and wear makeup, no matter what your body is shaped like. And you FEEL more confident too. You don't have to dress sexy - just dress in a way that makes you proud to be who you are, that makes YOU feel good.
A man will have to recognize you and learn to appreciate those good qualities about you to fall in love with you. Guys that are only interested with you dress sexy just want to have sex with you. A guy that notices you when you are dressing in a way that makes you confident is the type of guy that you want to pursue. My fiancee finds me wildly attractive even though I wear jeans and T-shirts every day.
Try to start putting a little make up on to accentuate your beauty. Start with a red lip gloss, a light shiny eyeshadow and wear mascara. These things are easy to use and keep you looking natural. Wear light foundation or face powder - have a make up salesperson help you decide which is best for your skin color and type. Start getting your eyebrows waxed - it has a brightening affect on the eyes!
I was a total tomboy. I went to the Marine Corps and didn't wear make up for years. Finally, in my mid-twenties, I discovered it and now I am hooked to lip glosses, shimmery eyeshadows and masacara. I wear light face powder and make sure my eyebrows are trimmed. It's simple but it makes a huge difference! People tell me all the time. You will see the difference in you too. And I promise you will like it and get noticed more.