my dad married me off at age 14 to a man 12 years older than me i meat him the day we got married it was a i honerd my dad and my vows until now, i am 46 and for first time my heart is biting for a man and he is my husbend friend and his wife is my friend but they r not happy together they r geting a divorce. i never been with another man other than my husbend so this is killing me althogh nothing happend yet but i know in my heart it will if i don't stop it now,he told me meany times that he is in love with me and i am the reason he can not live with his wife.what should i do plz help me?ps:i have 2 kids a boy 27 and a girl 24 both singel living at home with us.
2007-07-06 18:38:20 · 18 answers · asked by star p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why don't you just have sex with the other guy and don't tell your husband.
May I suggest doing it in the butt
Oh and do what you want ... you are going to anyway
2007-07-06 18:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Are you self supporting and do you love your husband? Arranged marriages are one thing but you have done your duty and you must answer some tough questions. Are you ready to completely change your life as you know it? Forget the kids, they are adults and can deal with whatever your decision is. It has become very commonplace in today society to divorce even after 20 - 25 years. You just get to the place you are ready for a new adventure and the person you have been living with for the last 5 years or so is not the same person you married. Good luck with whatever your decision you make but remember if you decide to leave or stay, you are not the only one that has ever been in this situation.
Don't worry, BE HAPPY!!!
2007-07-06 18:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its time to ends things, so better things can come. Why are you kids living at home at their age? 32 years is a long time. Are you sure you are willing to give it all up for this man? You will probably have to start out with nothing. I'd wait until he gets a divorce...sometimes they just say that to get some and then don't get the divorce and leave the woman hanging. I wouldn't give him any, that way, if he don't really love you, he'll find someone else. But if he really loves you, he will get a divorce and he will wait for you.
2007-07-06 18:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
egocentric is a sarcasm dont you think of? he's previous egocentric, yet I guess that he's harboring somewhat some resentment to boot...that would desire to be the reason at the back of all of this. His assertion that he truly might particularly purely be gf/bf lower back says lots approximately how lots he believes he exchange into compelled/ or tricked in to being married....it somewhat is why human beings ought to by no potential marry as a results of fact of a being pregnant. He believes his existence could be greater helpful had you no longer gotten pregnant.....and its a real feeling for him even however his assertion is made out of anger or drunkeness....You 2 choose counseling if something is going to get any further helpful between the two one in each of you...proper now he's far too cchildish and egocentric for words and thats in basic terms going to worsen in the adventure that your issues arent addressed properly. get marriage counsling ASAP.
2016-10-01 01:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not happy with your husband, then move on and let him move on too, he's not too old to move on, ya know?! The kids are old enough to be out on their own unless they are in school. At any rate, if you don't love your husband do him the favor of ending it rather than living a lie. I would hate to think my husband didn't love me anymore but stayed with me anyway. Don't cheat. Just cut the ties and take your chances that it will work out with this other man. But don't keep your husband in a loveless marriage for your convenience.
2007-07-06 18:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well love cant be under control.what u feel u just do it..dont think about your husband because there is no point thinking of him.If u feel u love your new lover then go ahead with him.. and be brave to face the challenges.In this world who dont have problem? Ask your children whether they want to live with you or not? they a not small kids and they know about love.My dear friend,imagine the world is ending tommorow and will you worried at the last minute? Think about it.
2007-07-06 18:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by Bavani Thamothram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u were at an early age divorce and have a new life might be a solution.See what's ur children think about this?What would be the effect on them.They will marry soon.I am sure u don't wanna lose them.But if u really can't resist ask urself what u want.Finally control ur emoition donot let emotion control you....
2007-07-06 18:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by saikot11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I' m sorry. You let this happen and you chose to let it happen. Now you want approval for what you are going to do. I can not do that. You are married. You have let your husband enter your body and produced two children. You have to honor your marriage. Selfishness is ruled by emotion. Integrity is ruled by morals and reason. Don't lower yourself by being immoral. Keep you dignity and honor your husband, but most of all honor yourself. The "hot" flashes will go away if you want them to. Good Luck
2007-07-06 19:13:32 · answer #8 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be happy. But, you also need to honor your wedding vows. If your relationship with your husband is over....than divorce him. If your husbands friend really wants to be with you, he will complete his divorce. That is the time you act on how you feel. If you do it while you are both still married, you dishonor yourselves. Just be patient, if it's meant to be....it will. You need to end one relationship before you start another. Good luck....and go be happy.
2007-07-06 18:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by wendy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like hes just trying to get into your pants by telling you the things you want to hear because if what he was saying is true he would have left his a long time ago if your not happy leave your husband but dont cheat on him
2007-07-06 18:43:26 · answer #10 · answered by mmedina96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking with your heart and not your mind. When you weigh the cost you should not even entertain following through on this.
Make your marriage work and stop thinking of anything else.
2007-07-06 19:01:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋