i was thinking to myself on why i feel the need to control my eating/weight (count every calorie and that sort of stuff and weigh myself every day) and COULD it possibly be that one timee i was in a situation with a guy on where i didnt have control or could it be my parents making comments about my weight? i dont i feel that if i think of the reason maybe i wont waste the next year of my life worrying about my body bc i already wasted oneyear.
2007-07-06 18:27:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Both of these things are likely the cause. Your parents should provide you with nutritional food and balanced meals and not slam you about your weight. You sound like you have already learned not to let some guy control you or your life ever again. Just learn to like and love yourself and if your parents disparage you, ignore them they don't know any better. Good luck.
2007-07-06 18:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Unless you are dieting and using exercise to try to lose weight, where counting calories and weighing daily is normal, you may want to consider if you really believe that you should lose weight. I am guessing that this isnt the case because in your post, you are clearly concerned about your weight control. I am sure that you are aware, but if you are at a healthy weight, you probably dont need to be as obsessive with your weight and what you eat. This type of pattern is what leads many people into dangerous eating disorders. Dont say "oh no, that couldnt happen to me". You do seem like a very smart individual, as most people do not recognize the causes of eating obsessions. Feeling you are not in control of your own life is what leads alot of people into this cycle. My suggestion would be to find someone to talk to about unresolved issues from your past, whether its a friend, a counselor, or a trusted person at church, school or another organization that you belong to. Opening up is alot of times what can put a stop to the feelings of needing to control. Food intake is an easy thing to control, and with the pressure that is on people to fit into the whole "skinny is beautiful" that is seen on TV, in magazines and all over the media and advertising, you would be surprised to know how many people fall into the exact situation that you are in. Learning to love yourself for who you are and reminding yourself that you are in control of your own life (to an extent if you are a minor) is an important step. Good luck to you...you are on the right track with opening up and asking your question here.
2007-07-07 01:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Somaesthesia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not your parents and it's not about a guy. It's about media and the general populous that is pre-occupied and consumed by body image. This has projected into your psychie and since you are just starting to be more self aware, you are unsure what you will actually turn out to look like, so you have become determined to try and control what your body will do. The problem is that your body is still developing and growing, and everything on your body doesn't grow evenly (that's NORMAL and very healthy) You'll want to eat healthy foods, with lots of fruits and veggies, plenty of lean protein and don't forget the GOOD fat...like macadamia nuts!
I would say that you should get a physical and hear it from a trained professional about what you should concern yourself with regards to your phsyical health.
2007-07-07 01:43:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either of thos things could be the reason. try to stay out of relationships were you have no control because that can definently do it. also you should talk to your parents about how you feel when they comment on your weight. tell them it is making you uncomfortable and unhappy. it is your body and the most important thing is for you to feel happy and beautiful in it. no matter what the media says, each individual is beautiful in their own way. you shouldn't obsess about calories. you are probably normal size like i was but i also stressed over every calorie. you should just try to relax and enjoy your body as it is while you are young.
2007-07-07 01:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by decepticons_go 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would reccomend seeing a counsleor. It sounds like you have an eating disorder because I'm sure that you are not overweight and trying to lose weight. Anorexics and bulimics take control over food when they have nothing else they believe they can control in their lives. I don't necessarily believe you have an eating disorder because of a guy; but I am sure that it was feuled by a mixture of that and your parents' comments. You are not bad, nor are you sick. You just need to talk with someone to work these things out.
2007-07-07 01:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by the_crying_queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be anything. You know, a counselor sure does help with that kind of thing, if you want to talk about it and find the truth.
It could be the reckless relationship, your parents comments, OR your own personal feelings. Either way, I don't think that counting every calorie is very healthy.
Good luck! :)
2007-07-07 01:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Pretty Maggie Money Eyes 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well dieting doesnt mean becoming aneorexic. So just get lots of excercies (yes,there are fun ways!: walk dogs with a friend. Bring your iPod to the gym. Swim laps with some friends ECT) and cut out the chips, cookies, sweets and sodas and youll be loosin weight (the HEALHHy way!!)
2007-07-07 03:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly Taylor 49 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋