Im dating a white girl who is younger than me and...?

Question

her parents disapprove of me because im black she loves me alot but I dont wanna **** up her life because of this if I stay she gets abused by her parent emotionally and physically but if I go I miss out on true love and she will have a better domestic life

Answer 1

Wow! If her parents are abusing her emotionally (and this IS child abuse) how much worse could you make her life? Sounds like you may be her saving grace! If her parents are really that bad ... forget them ... when she moves out she'll probably keep her distance anyway. For now you should be cautious ... and keep it away from them. You didn't mention her age ... but if it really is TRUE love then wait until she is old enough to move out on her own.

I appreciate the answer above saying to get them to like you ... but do you really care if two people abusing their daughter like you? I wouldn't ... I'd want to help her for sure ... stick by her ... support her. If you really do love her than make it work ~ even if that means biding your time for now and staying away from her parents. She won't have a better domestic life if her parents are abusers .. no matter what you do . So I say don't give up ... have courage ... true love is worth fighting for! =)

I wish you both the best of luck ...

Answer 2

I'm so sorry! Okay well I think the solution depends on your age. It is definitely not your fault, her parents sound like ignorant people and they should never ever physically or emotionally hurt their children! I think if you are both under 18, and I looked at your questions and it sounds like you both are, then you should just be her friend and support her. Her parents may mess her life up because of this and I think you need to do what's best 4 her. Maybe when you both are 18 and over you can be together...? And maybe you can still date her, but you can make sure her parents don't know about it. That way you can be together without her being in danger, but there is a risk with this and you can get caught. And if her parents abuse her over other things too, then you need to get help 4 her- parents shouldn't do this and they should be reported to the police in my opinion. I would just make sure that she is safe over everything else. I hope this helps and I hope everything works out 4 you! =)

Answer 3

do what's best for her, don't be selfish just because you found you a white gull. if it is true love, it will last until she can make her own choices. lets face it, (not a racial slur, just an observation) black guys don't usually pull white girls up, they usually pull them down, it's a different culture. I have black friends and they will readily admit this. that's what her parents are afraid of. I think it a noble gesture you would do what's right for her. by the time she is old enough to make her own choices, maybe society will have changed some more and it won't be as much a problem. the same reason most white guys won't date black women, they don't want to get pulled down in that culture. it's changing, slowly, you would have been lynched just a few years ago for messing with a white girl, whether she said ok or not. your rap music disrespecting women does not help the situation either. when you have a kid, you want the best possible thing for your children, from a lot of the black examples, most white parents don't believe they will get that, I know, judging a race by a bad example of a few is not fair, the world is not fair, if someone gets hurt in a car wreck, it would only be fair if everyone got hurt. that's not the case. every person that dates someone from another race is too quick to point out they aren't racist, look I gots a white g/f . I'm no racist, but I ask you, how many male white friends do you have? most have none. it's a trophy white g/f. just like white women who claim I gots a black b/f , I'm not racist. they usually don't have any black female friends. they are just as racist as the rest of us. so do what's best for the girl even though it may be racist parents, it's still their daughter who doesn't have the right to make choices until she is 18. they do have the right to choose what they think is best for her. it cost a lot of money to raise a child (which means a lot of working), you will see this someday and you won't be so quick to cut your children loose either.

Answer 4

I hate when I hear things like this because I'm African American myself and I love inter racial relationships, I think it sucks when people still have these old thinking minds. I really don't know what to say, I think it really depends on how old you are and how old she is. Whether she's old enough to have a sit down discussion with her parents as well. I'm sorry to hear that her parents are emotionally and physically abusive.. I wouldn't suggest sneaking either... If this is true love, I suggest you 2 stick in there somehow. Also, I think you need to take into consideration with what she truly wants. It may help if you show her parents that you have the best at interest for their daughter. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

How old is? If she is 13-16 it might be best for you to tell her you love her but can't watch her get hurt. If she is 17-19 you might want to wait. 20+ protect her, stay with her and try to convince her parents. The only reason I say this is because if she is on the younger side her parents are going to be more controlling.

I hope this helps.

Answer 6

You don't say how old she is, but assuming she's under 20, she's still their baby. They know how hard it is to survive in this world under the best of circumstances. And to make it even harder....its hard to watch your child make choices so early in life, that is really going to make their lives tough. Children don't understand all the ramifications of the choices they make, until it's too late. If I were you, I'd move on and find someone that their parents didn't hate me. But if you don't, if you and she just can't, if you are really meant for each other...then you better treat her right. That's the only way that they "may" accept you. Time heals all wounds. There are more and more interracial couples these days. People are accepting them more and more. It's not so much taboo anymore. But it's still going to be hard, for you and for her...are you sure you want to go thru it? Are you sure you want to put her thru it? And your kids? Think about it long and hard. She will find love again and so will you. If it is meant to be, it will be.

Answer 7

Wow.. I wish I knew how old ya'll are..because going through
so much drama will be hard on you both..only truly knowing
yourself & she knowing herself & what she wants out of life
is how to move forward.. or maybe it's better to back up.

Please both of you, dont make this decison just to prove
the parents wrong- these parents sound very controlling,
& I feel for the girl, but please dont try to be her hero...
By the sound of it, her parents probably already have
abused her- hopefully she can get her help with the issues
that comes along with abusive parents!
My suggestion to you is tread the water with caution
&' dont try rivers & lakes that you're not used to'..

Answer 8

Why don't you let her be the one to choose. She knows how strong she is and how much she can take. If she is willing to go the distance to be with you, just do what you can to comfort her and keep her safe BUT don't encourage her to defy her parents too much or you may cause her more abuse. If you are 18 and she is underage her parents can screw with your life, so I would be careful. Try to sit down with her parents and let them know you have good intentions with their daughter instead of sneeking around. You would be susprised how much more respect and leeway you will get with them if you are honest. I don't think it's so much of a race thing but a "your dating my little girl" thing.
Good luck to you and your girl;o)

Answer 9

True love comes but once so embrace it as for the parents you just have to prove them wrong its all in the stereo type if you rally love her then stand up for her if she is of legal age that is Racism will always be with us irrespective you just need to prove that some are not all and you are true for what you are and what intention you have Trust yourself to get thrue this together.

Answer 10

I say you should pull her aside and ask her what she thinks is best. It will be better in the long run if you ask then just stay and let her get abused or just block her out of your life forever.