I am divorced and am very amicable with my ex. Not long after we split she had a boyfriend, who had a kid around my sons age. They were together for about a year and she moved in with him. They lived to gether for about another year or more. During this time it was difficult to schedule time with my son. I have a bit of an odd work schedule and she was well aware of that. We did the best we could to set up monthly schedules. There were times when things needed to be changed, and when I would ask her for this weekend or that weekend, she seemed to have something planed for her, the boyfriend, and the kids. That relationship is over. Now for the past few months I have been able to see my son pretty much whenever I wanted. She would ask me to take him sometimes for reasons that she gave me but turned out she lied. Now she has a new boyfriend and that's great but now it seems like she always has something to do and needs me to take my son for more than a weekend. I love my time with my
2007-07-06 17:54:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
son very much and cherish my time with him. Now I feel like I have become more of a babysitter for her. She is the one that wanted the divorce, not me. Do you think I am being used by her?
2007-07-06 17:56:08 · update #1
Well, you could be, but is she being your babysitter? Do you share him 50:50? Or does she usually have responsability for him more than you? I would take advantage of her being busy and be the best dad you can be and do not worry about what she is doing or if she lied. Do not focus on her at all, take him any time you can, that is what being a Dad is all about and you be there for him 24-7 if you can because that kid should be your first priority, not her. Get it? Your child will be a better person for having a devoted dad....no matter if she is going out or not. If you do not be there for him, she will hire a babysitter, then he won't have the company of either parent. Oh, that is a manly way to handle it.....NO...you take him whenever you can get your hadns on him and let him know that he was what was important to you. She will have to stand on her own! Kids know who loves them. Make sure your child knows you do. Go Gettem DAD!
2007-07-06 18:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you become a mother or father, the term babysitter never applies again. You are a parent. Sure, she might let you have your child when it's convenient for her but you've allowed it. You said it was difficult to schedule time with your son when she was in her previous relationship. It sounds to me like you need to grow some balls and take charge of your time with your son. I think as a parent, you need to step up to the plate and take him as often as you can. Maybe it's time to re-visit the custody agreement. It sounds like she is more interested in her boyfriends than her son. What about your son's life? His schedule? Do you think this come and go whenever lifestyle is stable for him? I don't. Start thinking about what's best for your son. Not you. Not her. Put some thought into it and try to see where he might be affected by all this a few years down the road. Stand up for your son. Be the stability he needs in his life. Good luck :)
2007-07-07 01:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is in fact using you, so what? better for you now that you and your boy get all that time together. I guess that is what is really important. Be glad for that. Be glad that she isn't draggign your son everywhere with this new guy. I think it is better for him to spend more time with you anyway. seeing mom jump from dad to tom, dick, and harry can be confusing for a boy (of any age) So cherish the time with your boy have fun and teach him how to be a loving and respectfull man, good luck and love your boy more and more every day!
2007-07-07 01:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by who are you anyway?? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter? YOu are not complaining about getting your child support back, are you? You get to see your son and treasure the time with him.
If you think your ex is up no good again and don't want your son exposed to her next relationship, you should gather evidence and file for full custody. If you don't want to rock the boat, leave it alone.
I love spending time with my son when he was a pre-teen because I saw myself in him and I taught him lots of things. He is to be my legacy. That's what you can do.
2007-07-07 01:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I would just treasure the time you have with your son...in a few years this time will mean the world to both of you. Just think of it as bonding time that you are getting with your son. Enjoy.
2007-07-07 01:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it, yes, but at least the end result is more time with your son.
2007-07-07 01:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Perhaps if you say something about reducing the financial support you're providing, she may think twice about using you.
2007-07-07 01:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't know her, so she could be using you...but don't get your son caught up in this debate!
2007-07-07 01:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by HopeH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably but if you were in her shoes wouldn't you have done the same
2007-07-07 01:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by mmedina96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much to read
2007-07-07 01:11:16 · answer #10 · answered by Max 77 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋