we talk about it all the time and i never know what to say i usually just listen but sometimes she will just stare into nothing and i dont know what to do
she has had a pretty good life and it seems that it is all crashing down on her.
her parents court date is coming up, her dad wont even take her and her siblings for 2 days, her mother has to get surgery because of something pre-cancerous just a whole lot of **** that she doesnt deserve
i am the only one of her friends that knows about all of this so she relies completely on me for support and stuff and i never know how to help her. . . we go and do stuff a lot so she can get away from it all and i talk to her but i dont know what else i can do i just want this to stop happening to her
2007-07-06 17:45:06 · 6 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are a very good friend. Everyone should have a friend like you. What you are doing to help is perfect. You are providing a shoulder for her to lean on. You are right. Her world is crashing down around her. Not only are her parents divorcing and her world will change but her Mom faces possible cancer surgery. Keep doing what you are doing. You are helping her more than you will ever know. When she is 50, she will always remember your kindness.
2007-07-06 17:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to things like this, you don't always have to say anything, just being there to listen is enough. Just let her know you're there for her whenever she needs you. I know you wish you could do something to stop all of this from happening to her, but all you can do is be the best friend you can be and you're doing a great job, buddy. Keep it up and don't think that just because you can't do anything but listen, you're not helping. You're helping her a lot. And you're a great guy for doing it. Props to you.
2007-07-06 18:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
somtimes the best thing to do is just what you are doing ..LISTEN and let her know you are there for her.try not to talk down either parent because that may come back on you when things settle down... I can tell it is hurting you as much as it is her.. let her know this and also keep finding things to do with her.. sounds like you are the type of friend i wish i had.. good luck dear
2007-07-06 17:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by cherrihill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents went through a divorce and all i wanted at that time was someone to be there for me for when i needed to vent my fustrations. do try to say much because she just wants to talk you can't solveher problem for her and you are not going through what she is going through. checking up on her, making sure she is ok and making sure she eats is very important. try to not let her isolate herself because dangerous things can happen. most important Just let her vent on you, your presents and you attention is all she needs
2007-07-06 17:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents are getting divorced now. when u talk to ehr, dont talk about the divorce. just forget about it. it only makes things worse. just have fun and pretend the divorce isnt happening
2007-07-06 17:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek a lawers advise on this matter so you dont get in the middle of it. in my opion?
2007-07-06 17:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋