I mean "true love". We are ordered to remain chaste as long as we are unmarried. Sex is only for married people. Fornication and adultery are strictly forbidden.
OK, I understand how precious these rules are, but does that mean that "true love" will only occur after marriage? Is there true love before marriage? If so, could this mean that love is actually more psychological than physical?
2007-07-06 17:32:47 · 11 answers · asked by Ash'ari Maturidi 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No!! True love happens before marriage!!! When two people don't want to be apart..Want to be together forever and have this funny feeling inside when the other walks in the room..When you kiss at night before saying good bye..When your heart hurts when the other is gone ...All this is true love...No matter what happens you want to be with him/her..rich poor so on...Its both..Its not just physical but it something you feel deep in your heart and gut..When your in it you'll know what I mean...But alot of people fall in love way before marriage...!!!! In other words nothing physical has to happen before you can fall in love!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-06 17:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by rhoda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is something to be said for chasitity really. I am a former Marine so I've had my fair share of fornication and bar swinging whatever.....I never once thought about marrying any of the girls I ever met or took home from those places. When you see someone naked and lust takes over very early in a relationship, it tends to drive every waking thought when you're around that person. Your only basis for feelings are based on the most passionate and connected experiences you've had with that person, and that is sex.
I can tell you, I was engaged once a long time ago, and that girl I met in high school. She made me wait for 6 months before we finally got physical other than kissing. It made all the difference in our relationship, and we learned so much more about each other in those six months, that I learned that the true basis for love is a deep respect and understanding of another person. We eventually broke up after I was shipped off to the other side of the world for an extended period of time. I am Married now, have been for 15 years now, and I can tell you this relationship started out much the same. We were together for 8 months before we ever fooled around.
I don't think MARRIAGE is the deciding factor necessarily for me, but you have to ask yourself, is this the girl you want to be with forever? if the answer is no, well then none of this matters. If the answer is yes, and you WANT to fall in love possibly and have a long future together, take the time to really get to know her and be with her every waking moment without the added pressure of sex. It will ultimately make your relationship the strongest and most secure you've ever had.
In my life there have always been 2 kinds of women. The ones you potentially could marry, and the ones you'd never even think about it. Which classification they fall into determined for me how I looked at sex with them. Sad, but true. My daughters will be told the same story, and I hope like hell they choose to be the first classification and keep any boyfriends at arms length for at least 8 months. No guy looking for a piece of tail would ever wait that long, and this way, they can weed out the losers pretty quick.
2007-07-07 00:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tasmania24 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really can happen before or after just depends on the people and the cercumstances....i mean, sex has nothing to do with love, you don't fall in love with someone based on how they have sex, but you can fall in love with a person while dating before marrying and some instances people have arranged marriages in which they don't know much about each other and fall in love over time which would be after so it could be either....true love can occur at any time, sex has a part of it but it's not the reason you fall in love, it could be something you love to do with that person, ya know?...but true love can happen before your married....love is more psychological than physical
2007-07-07 00:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people believe that you don't fall in love, you more grow into it with time. Those people would believe it would occur during marriage.
Some people believe the reason you get married is because you're already in love and the "spark" goes away during marriage.
I'm not really sure which it is yet, but love is definitely more psychological than physical. Doesn't physical love = lust?
2007-07-07 00:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe anyone should get married unless they are in love with each other. You don't have to have sex to know if you are in love. I think sex makes the love more deep and brings you even closer together and makes the love stronger but it isn't unreasonable to think you can be in love without a sexual relationship. I think true love involves both psychological and physical aspects. But again, you can have true love before having sex. You would feel a physical attraction or not.
2007-07-07 00:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes love is more psychological than physical and yes true love can occur before marriage
2007-07-07 00:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by MadisonMurder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that true love easily can come before marriage. However, one has to define "love." One certainly could (and probably would) feel closer to one's partner after making love, and having children. But, I think that one can easily have "true love" for another without those things.
2007-07-07 00:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by ES 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think true love SHOULD occur before marriage.. you shouldn't be marrying someone you're not truely in love with
2007-07-07 00:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by brooke 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before. If you aren't 'burning with desire' for this person...don't get married. You can learn to love someone, but not on that level. You can only learn to love someone in the friendship sence.
2007-07-07 00:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is only psychological, sex isnt love!!!!!
2007-07-07 00:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by Megan G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋