need help with my personality*?

Question

Silly question I know but i've been honestly searching for answers and i'm really confused.
I use to be a reallly happy& smiley person all the time. I guess i've changed a little while i've grown. I feel as though i'm not so much hyper& i'm usually quiet around people.


How can I achieve that all the time happy, hyper and REALLY outgoing personality? I would like to hear a few answers

**This is a serious question don't bother answering with negative feedback.

Answer 1

A healthy personality must have balance. That is, highs, moderates and lows. Usually most is moderate. If you want to be a happy, smiley person all the time, I have no realistic answer for you. You say you used to be happier and more smiley around people but as you matured you became more quiet. This does happen as one grows up, it's called inhibition which is not present in childhood. Just as you would see a toddler running around naked without concern that someone is watching, this same toddler when they begin to mature becomes shy and inhibited around others. If it is shyness, practice being more happy and outgoing with close friends and try to expand slowly with people you know less.

Answer 2

I'm just thinking out loud.

As you have matured, you have become familiar with what I will call the bull's eye world of relationships. Or maybe the dart board world.

The center of the eye and the center of the board represents the people you feel most comfortable with, and with them, I believe, you are still the person you described in your question.

As you move further from the center you find more and more people that you relate to on varying levels. You may find that as you move well away from the center, that presuppositions and insecurities determine how you respond. This is normal.

I'm not a psychologist or counselor, or anything like that. But I want to encourage you to really invest a lot of your time and energy with the first group of people: the ones closest to the center.

People, and what they do, are like checking account transactions. Some make deposits. Some make withdrawals. Some make big deposits. Some make big withdrawals. The ones who care about you the most are the ones making the biggest deposits. Make sure that you keep your checkbook balance in the positive, or in the black. When you do that, you will find yourself able to make deposits into the accounts of others.

Another illustration is what I call the stop light analysis. Spend more time with green light people - the ones who encourage you, and the ones who are honest with you. Yellow light people are those who say and do some helpful things, but they also get on your nerves some of the time. Red light people are those folks who always leave you feeling sad, depressed, angry, or just plain tired. They hardly ever do anything for you, unless they have something to gain from it.

By the way, the stop light analysis also applies to jobs and careers. See if you can fit the pieces together about how that "works."

Maybe that is enough from one contributor?

I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Ha ha! It's the opposite for me. I became more outgoing as I grew up. I guess it's different for everyone, and I'm thinking that it may be natural. You just changed without really noticing it until now, right? So it's a natural thing. I don't think there's a sure way of changing it since it'd be like changing your personality. I don't know much, but that's what I think. Maybe you can try participating in things that require being hyper and outgoing. That's how I changed a bit. I used to be the kid no one knew in the back, but now I'm always in the front and yelling out random things. ^^*

Answer 4

It could simply be adolescence or a major event event in your life for it to happen. Most things like personality are affected by chemical levels in your brain so a psychiatrist may not be a bad option. The other part of it is to understand why you are actually being quiet. It could be simply a fear of rejection or being shunned. If it really bothers you, look for that source and solve it from there.

Answer 5

I know where you are coming from here.
I was very much a “social butterfly” in my teens but then I went through a lot of bad stuff and got very depressed. Honestly what it took to get back to normal was time, and finding people who cared about me. I don’t know how old you are or how much you’ve been through, but we all have our bad times and yes, they change us. Find those around you who love you and take comfort in that. This will pass.
There is one more thing that helped me more than anything and it was my faith as a Christian. It’s good to be happy, yet joy is even better and it comes from Jesus.
Hope this helps.
Jem

Answer 6

While you grow, you are always going to be changing. Your personality is no different. No one is happy and hyper all the time anyway. It's not bad to get more serious as we grow older.

Answer 7

Well I am usually sad person and depressed but the only thing that makes me happy is my best friend... She is like my sister and I always laugh with her and I can talk with her about my problems and she always keep a secret and... I dont know what would I do without my best friend... So try to find new friends get close with them... or you can find just one friend that will become your best friend ....

Answer 8

Just think of your personality as a character you are trying to portray. Act. Be a character in a movie who is the freindly antagonist who saves the day, or the main character of the TV show who is happy-go-lucky and everybody likes. All of our personalities are just characters, never a perfect reflection of what we really think and who we really are to ourselves. Just be someone you'd like to be freinds with.

Answer 9

Too feel happy you must be happy so once you start becoming so wrapped up in enjoying life you will start to be that happy outgoing person!

Answer 10

I can give it to you in a nutshell..... the kind of person you describe is one who knows and likes herself. The best way for that to happen is to come to know Jesus Christ, and that is a process. The better you know him, and accept his teachings, and follow them, the more you come to know and understand, and also like your own self. Other people may claim there are other ways, but they don't really satisfy and give you true peace. His way is best.