i m 19yrs from Delhi.My life al of a sudden changed when went 2 college.Kept self away from the ... activities prevailing in Hostel....
frankly speaking i m not very comfortable in talkin with boyz but easy with girls.All my frnds hv boyfrnd meee dont have.At school and now again at college i was asked 2 kiss guies both times refused, reffered as Lesbean.Frnds call me less!M I Really...
2007-07-06 16:44:39 · 30 answers · asked by riya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are in no way a lesbian unless you are attracted to girls.
The only problem with you is that you feel uncomfortable interacting with boys and this prevents you from participating in college/hostel activities.You will have to get rid of this. First of all start interacting with boys.Boys are no different, they are also human beings.talk to them just like you would talk to any girl.Try entering a group of boys and girls.If u don't find any such group in college you may hang out with your cousins and their friends.Participate in college activities not for the sake of getting rid of this label but for the sake of boosting your confidence and developing your personality.In any case, strongly tell those girls who call you lesbian that its your life and you have different priorities.You cannot kiss any random guy.You'll kiss only the boy you love, who'll also be your boyfriend and you still haven't found such a boy.That doesn't make you a lesbian.
2007-07-06 17:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the 1st thing i would say to you is to leave your Friends and find some better ones.
Hey , Calm down , Relax , You are not a lesbian
.
A Girl is a lesbian only if she is sexually attracted to other Girls .
Are you, No ?
Then it is nothing but a case of being uncomfortable with Boys .
U Mentioned some activities going on in your Hostel that you have kept away from .
Well , then ,i have to say that you are a sensible Person who cares about her Parents.
Because most probably these activities involve Sex Or Drugs ? Am i right ?
I repeat ----
Make some better Friends ,and;;
You are not a lesbian .
So chill .
I am a 17 old guy in Delhi , and i hate to admit it , but i too am in the same situation as you . Because i too get very uncomfortable and nervous aroud Girls .
Hey , Maybe we could be Friends ?
U can mail me by viewing my profile.
Hope i could Help.
G'Bye ;-) ;-)
2007-07-07 05:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by I Am The Master 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely not!
Just because you prefer girls than guy does NOT make you a lesbian. If your friends really ARE your friends than they should understand it's not comfortable for you to kiss a guy and they shouldn't force you to. And just because they all have a bf and you don't doesn't mean a thing!
Don't stress, i'm sure the right guy will come along someday, you don't have to rush! In the mean time, you can try talking to guys more, not one-on-one or anything, just at normal basis. And maybe you won't feel so shy around them after a while!
2007-07-06 23:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by ~One Of A Kind~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not feeling comfortable talking to guys has nothing to do with you preferring women. Honestly, it's respectful that you don't go out and kiss whoever. You'll know which guy you really want to kiss, just relax and let it happen. People will take anything to start talking about someone else, don't pay attention to them, it's not worth it.
2007-07-06 23:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by jomanuel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its wrong thinking. You have been effected by the behaviours of your other friends. Its the quality of cultural and social teaching that you get from your family had stopped you from doing that job.
Lesbians are those females who have sexual pleasure with other female. Its your "sanskar " which forbidds you to have a naked dance like other hostel mates.
Dont worry you are normal, you have kept the dignity of your parents and family high.
2007-07-07 01:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absoultey not! Lack of doing something can't make you a lesbian it's a decission you make. If you haven't kissed a boy it just means you're holding of for the right boy and you don't want to kiss these guys because you barely know them or just don't like them.
2007-07-06 23:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Cutiepie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you haven't kissed a boy doesn't mean you are a lesbian. What you need to ask yourself is who are you attracted to. If you are unsure, don't let other people make your mind up for you. Just because you didn't want to kiss some boy inparticular... maybe he wasn't worth kissing! If you are gay don't let anyone make you feel bad for discovering who you are. AND don't let anyone hurry you along. Do things in your own time and in your own way.
Good luck!
2007-07-06 23:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by Marianne D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you're not. just because you refuse to kiss a guy doesn't making you a lesbian. Your first kiss is a big deal. you dont want to give it away to some random guy on the street, or you'll just regret it later. Make sure the time is right.
its common to be un-comfortable around guys. just try to spend more time with them when your girl-friends are around. it might help.
(next time spell it right it helps hahahahahahaha)
<3 Miss Lady Bug
2007-07-06 23:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Lady Bug 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let people bring you down because you live a clean life. My daughter is 20, and maybe had her hand kissed once.
Kissing and dating is not all that, especially when you have a life.
2007-07-06 23:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because u didnt want to kiss guys doesnt mean anything, think about it to yourself. Would u rather kiss a guy or girl ? Do you feel attracted romantically to guys or girls?
2007-07-06 23:47:16 · answer #10 · answered by Love. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋