I had a baby 4 years ago with a guy who just up and told me he wanted to sign over his rights (never did though), the last time he saw her was when she was 2 months old.
well now my sister and mom are trying to tell me to get a hold of him for my daughters sake, i am remarried to man that wanted to be her dad he took over all responsibility when she was 1 year, she calls him daddy and loves him very much.
well they tell me to get a hold of him to do right by my daughter, she knows someone else was there when she was born but i don't thin kunderstands it all, i don't feel i should get in contact with this guy who walked away.
well my sister is still good friends with him and has been giving him pics and info about my daughter for the last 4 years!!!
how should i deal with this? me and my hubby want to get away from all this, should i just ignore my sister for now on and never give her pics or what??
how would you react?
I was just so hurt and pissed she would do this!
thanks
2007-07-06 16:41:22 · 6 answers · asked by 3 girls call me mommy 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You have every right to be hurt and pissed. Your sister has already betrayed you by staying in touch with this guy and supplying him with photos of the child he adandoned. I would never give her another photo or allow her to take another photo of youur daughter. Tell her she'll be cut off from you and your child if she continues to betray you.
The fact that you have married a wonderful man that has stepped in to be a good Daddy to your daughter is awesome. HE is her father, that other jerk was simply the sperm donor.
Your sister should mind her own business and stop talking about you & your child to your ex. I would tell her in no uncertain terms that she has betrayed you, and you want her to stay out of it. She carefully placed herself in the middle, and is getting some sick reward from this.
You and your new husband are the guardians of that little girl. YOU two should decide when/if your little girl should know about the sperm donor, your sister has NO say in it. When your daughter is MUCH older, then you can discuss it with her.
Telling your daughter about the dead beat dad right now is out of the question. But I would tell your sister to "f" off and get out of the middle. She could be jeopardizing your childs safety and the relationship your husband has with your daughter.
You have DONE RIGHT by your daughter. You married a wonderful man that is raising her as his own, doesn't get any more right than that, honey. There is a special place in heaven for a man like that.
2007-07-06 16:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters, your sister had no right to do that without your permission and is not a very good sister to do that to you and I would tell her so. If the father of your child wants to see his daughter or know what she has been doing and what she looks like now etc., then he should come and talk to you about it directly and not go through your sister. I think it would be a good idea for you to talk to the father of your child and ask him what his intentions are because it may well be that for the past few years he has been thinking about his daughter and wants contact again and be a part of her life and unless there is abuse involved, you have no right to stop that contact. Everyone makes mistakes and if the situation was reversed, would you be hurt and upset if someone stopped you from seeing your daughter? But, I don't think you should be the first one to make the move. If your sister stills sees him, tell your sister, if he is still interested about his daughter and wants to be a part of her life, then he should speak to you directly about this so you can come to some kind of arrangement. But also make it clear to your sister, that this is the last time that she steps in the middle of you both too! Good luck and hope everything turns out for the best!!
2007-07-06 16:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you i wouldn't even consider getting in touch with this loser. Sorry but he made his decision 4 years ago. As they say he made his bed now he has to lie in it. Your daughter has a father who loves and takes care of her. When she gets older and understands a little more explain to her about her biological father (not in a bad way) and let her make the choice as to whether or not she would like to see him. Your sister and mother should stay out of it. And if your sister is still friends with a man who deserted you and his daughter then I can't say to much about her either.
2007-07-06 16:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by Thumper 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed too..damn, shes ur sister not his that's just wrong..I would tell her she better stop giving him pics and anything that has to do with ur daughter cuz if he really wanted anything to do with her then he should have came and got it himself. I would tell her to mind her own damn business then if I was u I would get him to sign all his rights away so that ur husband can adopt her.
2007-07-06 16:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by NickyNawlins 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her off and make sure she didn't get any more pictures. If she doesn't respect that you want nothing to do with that man. Tell her she can get lost to.
2007-07-06 16:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sunset 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no you don't want him creeping back into your life he might demand visitation
2007-07-06 16:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Harry Hood 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋