to stay focused enough to pass the training because my parent is visiting me for the first time in a long while... And then after I quit my training, I felt like as though I have fired myself and have been feeling really negative and depressed about the whole thing to the point that my parent decided to cancel his trip because he was enraged by my abnormal behaviors and reactions that he was afraid that his trip may post a real danger to his health?? How do you explain me wanting to quit the training and feeling that I am not able to stay focused because of the presence of my parent. Because he was saying that I should make some accomodations and sacrifices for him since he came a long way to see me such as having myself sleep on the floor. But, I just felt an inconvenience to have to sleep on the floor and felt uncomfortable about him saying that I have to make some sacrifices and accomodations. But it's not like I don't want to make sacrifices, just that I don't see it that way..
2007-07-06 15:07:32 · 6 answers · asked by Raines 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's not about sacrificing for me. I only have one bed and I suggest that he can buy another bed for himself. But, he thinks that's not necessary and that I should sacrifice a bit and sleep on the floor. But, I like to feel comfortable and would rather not sleep on the floor and he can get a bed for himself. What kind of mentality is mine? He thinks I am selfish or something because I don't want to sacrifice. So, can one be considered selfish if one doesn't want to sacrifice??
2007-07-06 15:12:56 · update #1
I think it's not about sacrificing. I think it's best that I can sleep on my own bed and he buys a new bed to sleep on, you know... that way, both parties can feel comfortable and not inconvenienced in any way. Is this considered selfish because I don't want to sacrifice a bit by sleeping on the floor and have him sleep on my bed??
2007-07-06 15:17:03 · update #2
Why it sounds like thought disorder?
2007-07-06 15:19:24 · update #3
Yeah, he has health problems. But, I think it's more like I don' t know what to do myself or how to handle the situation of starting a new job at the same time that he is visiting for the first time in a long time.
2007-07-06 15:42:30 · update #4
I think it's just that I am starting a new job and I want very much to do well in it but then because I have to be very focused in it that I may neglect him while he is here or something...
2007-07-06 15:47:44 · update #5
I think you were being a good son, and your father might be a little mixed up about the whole thing. When MY parents come to visit my husband and me, our whole lives are turned upside down. At least they stay at a hotel.(This is Las Vegas, and they live in Seattle.) So your father was coming at a terrible time for you. It's really a shame, because now he thinks he's intruding. If its difficult for you to talk to him on the phone, send him a letter explaining the whole situation. That way he has to listen without interrupting! Talk to your future boss at work, and tell him what happened, and that you want to continue the training. And ask your father to come in a month or two. Or maybe longer when you can get a few days off. (Maybe Labor Day.) Why can't you sleep on the couch, if he's taking your bedroom? Does he have health problems? (Heart or High Blood Pressure or Mental?) He sounds a little over-bearing. Don't be stressed. That doesn't do any good, right? The whole thing was a big mess that'll be forgotten eventually. You did nothing wrong. I think your dad was more to blame. But we have to respect our parents. Oh well. :)
2007-07-06 15:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first 2 weeks of a job are usually the hardest. There is always a learning curve. Try sticking it out a little longer to see how it goes. As for how to handle this position in the future if you do get fired. Honesty is the best policy. Employers will often research your background and lying is worse. If you go into another industry be honest that you took the job and it just wasn't a good fit for you. Then emphasize why you think the new job would be a good fit.
2016-05-20 02:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You do not have any disorder. What is missing here is "love". If both of you have love for each other; he will say that "you sleep on the bed", and you will said "No! No! You sleep on the bed". Many people quit training like you do; you will glow out of it. Go back and asking for job back, or find other jobs; do not pay much attention about this time. Good luck!
2007-07-06 15:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by nobody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was being that unreasonable, then maybe he doesn't deserve to see you at all. If you are this upset and this frustrated over his visit, then maybe it's not a good idea for him to visit. He doesn't have the right to demand that you sleep on the floor. He should sleep outside!
I'm sorry, but he sounds like a crying baby.
2007-07-06 15:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by Sacrificial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should see a therapist. This sounds like some sort of thought disorder and I think it needs some attention before it affects more of your life, if it hasn't already.
2007-07-06 15:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK AT IT LIKE THIS....SACRIFICING SLEEPING ON THE FLOOR DOES NOT COMPARE TO WHAT A PARENT HAS TO SACRIFICE HIS ENTIRE LIFE FOR U...I DUNNO IF U FEEL SO PASSIONATE ABOUT THE WAY U THINK THEN JUST BE URSELF
BEST OF LUCK
2007-07-06 15:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Kat Von D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋