what do you do if you feel stuck?

Question

I have nowhere to go. I am not happy in my marriage, its pretty much over but I am stuck with a house that I cannot sell, if I divorce my husband its going to be terribly hard in a town very far away from my family with noone I can depend on to watch my 2 boys, 5 yrs and 18 months. I tried but I just cannot make it work with him. There's too much anger and hate. I just dont like him & never will. And even if I wanted to move closer to my mom and sisters I would have to sell the house 1st which could take months or years, the market is realy slow now. Moving close to my family has its drawbacks also. I could face criticism & judgement. My family could be really mean ,and make me feel bad. Not my mom but brothers & sisters. I feel stuck noone and nowhere to turn. Should I just rent out the house??

Answer 1

I suggest you take a very good look at your finances before you take another step. Figure out what it will take to support you and the kids, WITH CHILD SUPPORT, and could you make it if he stopped paying for what ever reason. Take into account you may be eligible for food stamps and public assistance of some kind. Explore all avenues before you going running around without knowledge...You children are counting on you to be responsible for them. Is the house in your name only? If not, it is a split asset (or liability, depending upon the market.) Is it cheaper to live in the house and pay a mortgage than to rent???? IF not, how could you come out ahead by renting it out, AND renting a unit of own...that doesn't make sense to me. I give the above advice based on your question, ..specifically the house bit. Please think, ask for advice, call mom and dad, get their input before you do anything at this time. Good luck and I wish you peace.

Answer 2

Can you sell or rent the house without you're husband's signature?

I think you should sit down and calmly go over all your options even if they seem impossible.

Find a trusted friend or family member and go over your options with them. Sometimes when you can talk things over with someone you can find the answer.

It may take awhile to come up with something but at least you'll be moving in a forward direction....good luck to you.

Answer 3

First if you rent your house you are responsible for damages that the renter do.There are places that will buy your house as is.Second about your family "sticks and stones will brake your bones but names will never hurt you" Let it go in one ear and out the other and sister it really is that simple if you want it to be.You need to conquer your fears and move back where you know people.

Answer 4

First of all stop being so negative and thinking of the worst possible things that could happen.

Yes, renting your house is a great idea.

And your not stuck, there is always a way out. Face your fears and remember that you are a strong, intelligent woman that can do what she needs to do to change her life.

Answer 5

what u can do is try to buy a house that has a contract to sell ur house first by their realtor or urs now a days u can include anything in home contracts.u can also live with ur family while ur house is on sale they might be judgemental but i think its better off living with them than ur husband.or try to live with a friend for a while or rent some place while ur house is on sale.
good luck
p.s. dont let any one judge u ,u did wat u had to do and u and only u know y and no one has to judge ur decisions

Answer 6

You made your mistakes and if leaving is your correct course of actions, just face it. You can never please everybody in this world. A mother struggling to raise her kids the best she can has nothing to be ashamed of.

Answer 7

Aaah the bliss of marriage. And people keep telling me to stop bashing marriage.