2007-07-06 14:04:51 · 16 answers · asked by browneyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't like his attitude about our kids, we argue over everything and he always accuses me of cheating. He also nags my about my weight even though he has gained weight throughout our marriage. I try ot get him to do things as a family but he never feels like it. We have 3 kids.
2007-07-06 14:41:37 · update #1
My boyfriend and I were together for the most part of 12 years. It was never a good relationship. We fought all the time, about everything. I wish I would've left years ago. What I'm trying to say is if you've already tried on this relationship, chances are things are not going to change. You can't change him, he can only change himself for you and the kids, and sounds like he doesn't want to or maybe just can't. So, if I were you, I think I would leave. You don't want to be miserable for any more years, and you don't want your beautiful children to see their parents in an unhealthy relationship. I exposed my wonderful 7 year old daughter to too much and I feel bad for it, and wish I would've changed it when she was alot younger. You, and your children deserve better. If you need any more support, feel free to contact me.
2007-07-06 14:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying, "The family that prays together stays together" This October we will be married 60 years and we have have had our ups and downs. At our 25th anniversary a young fellow asked us "How can you stay married so long" My wife piped up and said " Both of us are just to stubborn to give up" When we married in October 1947 I was 22 and my wife to be was 20, we met the middle of August the same year. We have had it rough through the years and I often wondered if we had done the wrong thing but then I think I could have done worse, so hang in there it can only get better.
I am satisfied with what I have but both people have to work together with the same goal in mind.
2007-07-06 14:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by John P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think more appropriately the question should be: what have I done to fix the marriage before I give up.
Time is not important if no effort is made.
Only you know if you have done everything possible to feel ok about parting.
I have been married twice.
The first time I thought I was trying so hard - however I was trying the wrong way - I was just trying to change him.
MArried again now and gloriously happy.
My only regret wasting so much time on something that had no hope.
2007-07-06 14:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by Olivereindeer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you are trying to fix and if the two of you are trying to fix it together. Things like getting bored, arguing about money or whatever can be fixed. Things such as loss of trust, loss of respect...that is much harder. Some will say marriage is forever. I fully believed that when I took my vows. But sometimes enough is enough and if you are miserable, making each other or your kids miserable, it's for you to decide when to say when. Seek counseling, find something that binds you together in a fun way, such as a hobby or sport that you can do together. Try to figure out what it was that connected the two of you in the first place and then try to re-connect.
2007-07-06 14:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by buggoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For this question to be properly answered, you should give more details about it. Example(s): 1, Abusive (physically/verbally/emotionally). 2, Love or Lust derived. 3, Any children involved (probably redundant). etc. Then you may be given a more feasible answer to your dilemma or inquiry. If so, have you tried a marriage counselor? Remember, NO ONE can help you if you can't provide a thorough and honest question, the answer is only as effective as the veracity and consistency of the question at hand. Best of luck!!!
2007-07-06 14:26:26 · answer #5 · answered by vbslord27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on you. Do you feel that there is anything to save in your marriage? Are there kids involved? I gave 'my all' for 12 years before I made a decision for my happiness. I finally realized that I could not promote the happiness of my child if I did not know if it myself. Now, I have fantastic relationships with both my child and my girlfriends. My Ex and I are also on good terms.
Good Luck with your decision.
2007-07-06 14:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by CajunAsian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends. If one or the other party don't want the relationship anymore or doesn't love the other person in the relationship any longer- the point is moot to try to work it out.
It also depends on how long the problems were there and what sorts of problems they are...cheating, lying, etc.
It sounds like you don't want to try on it, so why put your partner through it...be honest and tell them you want out.
2007-07-06 14:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by NY_Attitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i might kinda do in spite of is significant to guard you daughter from her. Has she found out something new in 9 years? Did she get 15-20 with day without artwork for sturdy habit? Does she delight in tricky detention middle intercourse? How some sturdy previous fashsioned over the knee (otk) bare bottomed spanking mutually as she's been naughty? If she does, furnish her to confirm me. She and that i might desire to get something at cutting-edge between us.
2016-12-10 04:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't fix everything, when your spouse isn't working on the relationship and their actions show u they no longer care, it may be time to give up, as u cannot control others, just yourself. we can't change people, or there ways, they have to want to fix it too, one person can't do all of the fixing.
2007-07-06 14:10:25 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as it takes. Til the youngest child is 18.
2007-07-06 16:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋